Should I transfer???

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I am in mostly intro classes now and you dont have much interaction with them.

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What follows is in the spirit of "tough love". If you want things to change then at some point you're going to have to decide that YOU are in control of your life and begin taking steps to make what you want come to fruition.</p>

<p>Are recs important? What do you think? And as for the matter of being in intro classes and not having much interaction, thats just an excuse. EVERY prof has office hours. They are there, sitting in the office, waiting for students to come by. Its your choice whether you take advantage of it, but it sounds pretty weak to turn around and act as if you're the helpless pawn of circumstances that prevented you from getting strong recs.</p>

<p>And look down the road a bit, will you? You're a business major, which I'm going to take suggests you aspire to a career in business. How do you think a business picks the employees to promote and give raises to? They choose the self-starters, those who see problems as something to be solved rather than non-negotiatable barriers. when your boss criticizes your performance on a project it is no defense to say the guys in accounting or sales didn't give you the numbers you needed. Why didn't you figure out what you needed and go get it?</p>

<p>Thru your posts I sense a thread of "this is happening to me". An uncomfortable environment is imposed on you, the profs don't approach you, you can't solve problems with your neighbors. Nowhere do you mention YOU picked this college, YOU are choosing not to get to know the profs, YOU are sitting in the room and are a ripe target for interruptions (by people who it sounds like genuinely want to be friendly). </p>

<p>You're in college now, and you have a choice to make. Are you going to be a pawn of circumstances or are you going to take control of your life.</p>

<p>Well I have been thinking about it for the last few days and I have done a lot of research. And as much as the idea of transferring excites me, I haven't been able to find any schools that I feel would be worth transferring to. I will list what I am looking for and will gladly accept suggestions on schools that you think would fit me well.</p>

<p><strong><em>things i want</em></strong>
-good business program (at least better than Lehigh's ranked #87)
-in or near a city (or somewhere that has something mildly entertaining to do)
-students that are not obssessed with athletics
-students that are not OBSSESSED with drinking (#3 party school here)
-housing that does not require me to share a room with someone</p>

<p>Thanks guys, I am anxiously awaiting suggestions.</p>

<p>Sounds like Northwestern would fit.</p>

<p>I have read that Northwestern has a HUGE frat scene. I have also heard that the worload is extremely intense. Anoyone have any other suggestions?????</p>

<p>All schools of that caliber will have an intense workload.</p>

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Anoyone have any other suggestions?????

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I suggest you think hard about the very wise thoughts which mikemac posted. Back in the Dark Ages, I transferred myself, so I know that transferring is sometimes the correct choice. But mikemac has hit on some important points which are concerning me also. Some of the issues which bother you are ones which I believe are legitimate reasons to transfer. Others are not - they are among the "small stuff" of life that one just has to learn to accept. Transfer due to size of the shower??? Distraction from studying because people you enjoy want to spend time with you? As others have said, the solution to this is not a transfer, it is a different way of managing your time (study in library, eg), communicating your needs (I need to study now, guys, let's play together at xx time). What is the transfer process like and do you need recommendations? I honestly don't remember all the details, but in the spirit of helping you help yourself - a la mikemac - I think this is the kind of thing you can determine all by yourself. Go to the websites of schools which interest you. They all have fully developed Transfer Student sections on their admissions web pages.</p>

<p>You need to seriously look at mikemac's suggestions. You will need to follow them to put yourself in a strong position as a transfer candidate, and you may well find that following them will eliminate your desire to transfer.</p>

<p>I don't want to sound like I am not "with you." I am. But you need to sort out the difference between an environment that doesn't work for you and steps you need to take to adapt to, enjoy and profit from this environment. If you can't do it here, you won't be able to do it at college #2 either.</p>

<p>At Northwestern you can be any kind of student. You can work hard and party hard. Kids over there know how to study and know how to party. My cousin graduated from there and he wasn't a big partier, and I have a close friend there who doesn't really party much either. College is what you make of it. You can study hard, and you can choose whether or not you want to party. But yes, there are kids who don't party all the time there.</p>

<p>Well I will most likely be staying here at Lehigh for my freshman year, and then I hope to transfer for fall of next year, since most schools don't accept freshman transfers for the spring semester. This weekend was very depressing and made the thought of transferring even MORE exciting. Friday night I walked around with some friends looking for parties at the frats since that was the ONLY thing going on. We were eventually able to get into one but it was extremely hot and crowded so we left soon after. We then decided to look for a party off campus and ended up just wandering the slum of south Bethlehem where there was absolutely nothing. So then we just went home. Then Saturday night most of my friends just stayed in to get work done, so that is what I did as well. Yeah it has been a pretty depressing weekend. I just need to find other schools to look at to transfer to next fall. Thanks</p>

<p>you guys got any other schools for me?</p>

<p>I go to Brandeis and we have very little emphasis on athletics and a much chiller party scene (usually more along the lines of small, invite-only parties, though you can find the big ones if you look). No Greek system. Brandeis is also 9 miles from Boston and it's pretty accessible. However, we do have a large workload. Also, there's no business major per say since it's a liberal arts University, but I've heard great things about the econ classes and you can be in the business program. We also have lots of hills and small showers. >_<</p>

<p>My nephew's a freshman there now and I don't think he drinks at all......He's very musical and also athletic...haven't heard that he doesn't like it there. Do you have a particular interest that you could pursue there...clubs, politics, etc? good luck!</p>

<p>Well I am taking percussion lessons right now to get into a group next year, but I mean there is only so much to d owith that. It's not really gonna help to make weekends any better. I really just can;t wait to find a school in io close to a city.</p>

<p>anyone else?</p>

<p>dude you can't except college to be constant fun</p>

<p>I know lots of kids there who love it and have things to do, you should just look around campus a little harder</p>

<p>ok guys,</p>

<p>You have all been pretty helpful so far and I am very appreciative of your comments. The problem I am having is that everytime I find a school that I might be interested in, I read horrible things about it on studentsreview.com. So I will give this thread one last bump to see if you guys have anymore suggestions or advice.</p>

<p>cany anyone tell me about NYU? i have heard that they have some pretty intense required core courses. also, how hard is it to transfer into stern as a sophomore?</p>

<p>I was just at Lehigh today</p>

<p>Most of the people I visited aren't partiers who've met people they've liked</p>

<p>But if you do want to transfer, NYU does have a CC thats pretty tough</p>

<p>do oyu think I would get credit for the courses I am taking here at lehigh and would not have to take all the core courses there?</p>

<p>Hey guys!</p>

<pre><code> It's been a while since I last posted and I have an update. I finally got my first semester Lehigh grades. Overall I have a 3.14 with 14 credits. I have an A-, B+, B, B- and a W. Maybe you guys will be able to give me a more solid assessment of schools I could get into given this new information. I also have letters of rec coming from my business prof, the dean of students, and my music prof. I will be attending Monmouth U this spring with a 14k scholarship thanks to my high school stats. I am pretty set on trying to get to Boston by next year. Northeastern and BU are really the only schools I plan on applying to at this point. Although what I have been reading about the grade deflation at BU has somewhat scared me off. Northeastern's co-op program is very appealing to me. If you guys could suggest city schools with decent business programs along with my chances of getting in as a transfer for fall of '06, now that you know my college grades, that would be awesome. If you guys have anymore questions, feel free to ask. Also, will the W kill me? Thanks a lot.
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