<p>What kind of people do you think someone whose trying to get out of shyness should sit with?
Would sitting with someone thats sitting alone and maybe a group of two be alright and inviting(like willing to talk, etc)?
I'm making some progress..I sat with someone today but we didnt say anything but hey its better than nothing lol.</p>
<p>The ■■■■■ posibility is in play but I’ll play the straight-man…</p>
<p>Even for people who aren’t shy, randomly sitting down with strangers at a meal is daunting.
Make friends with people in your dorm/classes and suggest meeting up for lunch. Much more fun since the whole where-do-I-sit-for-lunch thing will transform from <em>stress</em> to something you look forward to.</p>
<p>I’m not a ■■■■■.</p>
<p>This website is getting stupid. The advice Im getting is its better to sit alone than try to sit with other people and make friends. Hmm what about when everyone has orientation? nobody knew anyone but yet people werent sitting alone. So im guessing thats wrong too. Im getting ready to just ignore all the advice.</p>
<p>If this is a serious question, just start talking to someone in the cafeteria line and then ask if you can sit with them. Sometimes people who are sitting alone are about to do work, and IMO it’s easier to enter a group of three or more than a group of two.</p>
<p>Ask if it is okay to sit down, or if they are planning to work. And… have a couple of conversation topics in mind when you sit down (weather, if they have books on the table ask about those, something about the food, upcoming/latest basketball team games – since you appear to be a Wolverine). In general, I would say one person is best to approach (your odds are better of finding someone who also does not have anyone to eat with at that particular meal). But you gotta talk once you sit down.</p>
<p>I do agree that meeting people on your hall or in classes or organizations is best. But it can be hard at a big school, I know. Dorm people are especially good because if you go to the dining hall in/nearest to your dorm, you are more likely to see them there. Just keep working on it.</p>
<p>No I go to Michigan State…my username is cause Im from Michigan. To the person who said three or more, why three or more? anyone wants to answer- is ok to sit with some new people in cafeteria right? cause people are giving me conflicting advice saying yeah then others say no its not cause they wouldnt like people sitting with them and thinking who is the chick. Idk to do it or not.</p>
<p>IMHO when two people are talking together, a third stranger coming in disrupts group dynamics. When there are three or more people at a table, one or two people will likely dominate the conversation making it easier for a stranger to only partially participate or initiate a side conversation with someone else. </p>
<p>Before you ask to sit with them, just make a joke or pretend that the person is in one of your lecture classes. Even if s/he isn’t, just say “Oh I’m sorry. Well what classes are you taking?” and go from there. It’s best if you do this while waiting in line for the food. If the conversation goes well, ask if you can sit with him/her and viola, a connection has been formed.</p>
<p>This poster had a question earlier that asked “where are all the frat parties tonight” or somethin like that</p>
<p>Therefore, not a serious poster. Therefore ■■■■■.</p>
<p>Oh thanks. I didnt think of that lol. But thank you for the help.
haha you think your funny. Someone who wants to go to a frat party is a ■■■■■, your so very ignorant. Because you dont like party doesnt mean you gotta put everyone else down.</p>
<p>So you think its alright to sit with new people in the cafeteria? Ive had people say no thatll be basically an embarrassment.
And what do you think about sitting with a couple? Everyone usually says they are more laid back…so maybe more inviting or something like that lol.</p>
<p>Okay what you did today seemed like a good start. 
Now talk about something and try to come up with a good conversation. I’m like you sometimes and i try my best to just talk about the most random things ever and it turns out, I make people laugh in the meantime.</p>
<p>sorry i meant to put couple guys</p>
<p>lilmelonred: What do you think is the best to join a group of guys at dinner?
Lol sorry Im nervous. People seem nice here so I might be wayy overthinking it. I just dont want them thinkin who is the girl.</p>
<p>Well okay, join a group of guys alone? that might not balance out girl and guy ratio at the table. I was thinking maybe you can be friends with a girl and both of you try to find way to ask and sit with a group of guys.
You and your friend: “Oh hey guys, can we sit with you guys?”
The guys: “oh sure, you can.”
and then try to come up with a conversation or just be random and just laugh about it. </p>
<p>Although, the only time i think the guys will be like “who is the girl” or be turned off is when the person they see is not attractive (unfortunately). Guys sometimes can get shallow. </p>
<p>Honestly, i never tried asking to sit with a group of guys at a table without knowing them. It’s either i met them already in class or through other friends and maybe in the hallways… and they all seem to already know each other and then basically just stay together wherever we go (lunchroom, walking to class, library,other places).</p>
<p>Ok so maybe try a group of girls then?
I dunno guys seem to be nicer and laid to me…and girls can be you know not so nice. Plus I was thinkin guys like girls and theyd want a girl to come sit with them. But im not sure, whatya recommend I do? im about to go eat so</p>
<p>Although I do agree that girls can be get b*<strong><em>y, I also agree that guys can be *</em></strong>**y. So it works either way. Guys will like girls depending on the guy. Sometimes, guys tend to have attention on good looking girls. Sometimes, they may not care at all. From what i’ve seen so far, guys are shallow (atleast in my school). Goodluck!</p>
<p>You are waaayyy overthinking this. I am starting to get the ■■■■■ feeling as well… no actual college student would post this many times on this topic.</p>
<p>ugh. i am just super nervous and everybody gives conflicted advice. so how the heck am i suppose to know which is the right advice? some of you really get over yourselves bc not everybody is like you.</p>
<p>I say some of our advice are different. If you really want to know which works for you, try all of them with different people.</p>