<p>I remember how much I cried and cried last year when my S left for college. I was depressed for a month. I don’t know if he was nervous, but I don’t think so. For all of you that think you’ll miss your friends and your parents, it won’t be for very long, if at all. You’ll be swamped with work and make new friends immediately. You’ll not even think about calling home more than once every couple of weeks, and your “old” friends will probably not be hearing much from you either-or you from them.</p>
<p>Do college friends stay with you longer or do high school friends?</p>
<p>I’m going about 900 miles away and I’m scared out of my mind. My parents are so depressed that I’m starting to feel guilty about it, and that they’ll be disappointed if I show I can have fun without them. They tried to talk me into going to our flagship state university because it was only two hours away, saying that I’m a “homebody” and that they were worried that I’d not make any friends. Now, a few days from leaving, I’m beginning to believe that they’re right. </p>
<p>Plus, everyone on my college’s Facebook group is obsessed with the school. I like it a lot and think it’s a good fit for me, but the fact that I’m not dying to get there like they are concerns me.</p>
<p><em>sigh</em> :(</p>
<p>Yes, they do. I think it’s a combination of living so closely and/or studying the same things. Plus, people tend to be more emotionally mature.</p>
<p>seadog: I didn’t really make life-long friends in either high school or college, but two of my dearest friends I met at the club when I was about 16, and the other two when I was about 26. Now that I think about it, however, the friends I feel I could tell my deepest secrets to are the ones I met when I was younger. And I also feel that the other two (the ones I met at 26) are more reserved with me. </p>
<p>phanatic: Last year I started a thread about how depressed I was when my S left. I think you can look it up from my post history to show your parents. I recall that someone even told me I needed “medical attention,” or some other absurdity, just because I said I had “hugged” my son’s car in the moonlight while crying. Hey, I loved my son and I still do just as much, but I’m over it. One piece of advice from that thread that really helped was when someone suggested I picture my son living at home with me and not going to college at all, but living out his life without growing to his full potential. That snapped me out of it. Right now he’s home, and I can’t wait to get back from work and play tennis or watch TV with him, and though I know he’ll be leaving soon, I’m not dreading it, and I doubt I’ll even be sad when I take him to the airport. Well, not a lot.</p>
<p>“so college is a month away and I’m scared out of my guts.”</p>
<p>UChicago Bound? LOL. I know that’s one of the only schools that start like late september. haha</p>
<p>So how many months of actual classes do they have per year?</p>
<p>I move in in 2 days!!! I’m stoked and have been nothing but excited this entire summer, but I’m starting to get very anxious all of a sudden. I usually get up around 8 but now i wake up as early as 6, and I’m still really tired but it’s so hard to go back to sleep. I’m also worried about how I’m going to fit all my stuff in the car UGHKJDFJSJFK</p>
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<p>All schools have the same number of months regardless of scheduling. Quarter systems start and end later compared to semester systems.</p>
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<p>Well, UChicago and about 20% of colleges.</p>
<p>I was nervous before I left, and a lot of people are to some extent. It’s a big change- new people, new enviornment, new school. A lot of people get homesick a bit, too. It’s normal. Try not to worry yourself, don’t think about it and enjoy your summer. You shouldn’t be sick over it. You’ll be fine when you get to school, it’ll be a lot of fun. Don’t worry, be happy.</p>
<p>Thank you, seadog.</p>
<p>Oh, I forgot to say that I think that summer vacations are way too long, and that for the ammount of money I’m paying for my son’s school, I think there should be about another two months of classes per year. I’m sure many students and parents would disagree. Maybe I should start a new thread about it.</p>
<p>In my experience-- as a student and for 15+ years a professor --is that high school friendships begin to stagnate the day after graduation. Unless you attend college in your home town you will generally only see your high school friends again at reunions, and most people skip the 5 and 10 year ones. Facebook has changed things somewhat and I’m now connected to more of my HS friends than I was at my 20 year reunion, but those connections are shallow.</p>
<p>My college friends, by contrast, are spread all over the world but we stayed in touch much more. Perhaps that’s due to the intensity of the college experience. Perhaps it’s because we were more mature when we met and did not carry any of the baggage of growing up together. Perhaps it’s simply because we had more in common, since after all we chose to attend the same college. I’ve simply found those friendships to be deeper and more meaningful over time.</p>
<p>My impression from my former students is that this is the case for almost everyone. Even if you do attend college in your home town, you’ll quickly lose touch with your friends who do not. That’s just part of growing up. I’d also add that the friends I made in graduate school in my later 20s are even more important to me than my college friends, so there’s always opportunity to extend your life to include new and different people.</p>
<p>-kiwanda</p>
<p>^I find that quite depressing. But I’m sure I have bonded enough with at least a few people that we will stay in touch for a long time.</p>
<p>It is a daunting moment of transition but everyone is in the same boat.
For me the hardest part was leaving my friends behind when I left from my small town by the sea for Oxford in the UK (I’m English).</p>
<p>Of course now there is the comfort of having more communication tools open for you at your disposal, such as SKYPE.</p>
<p>Everyone feels nervous in their move to college.
Don’t worry - will all be fine.</p>
<p>Is doped a real word?</p>
<p>[you</a> can bet ur as it is](<a href=“http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Doped]you”>Urban Dictionary: do-ped)</p>
<p>I think “stoked” would have worked better, in this case.</p>
<p>I’m going to Merium-Webster “doped”. I have my doubts. I know “dope” is a word, but I’ve never heard it as a past participle adjective before.</p>
<p>Not a word. Unless you’re talking about being on drugs or introducing any foreign content to your bloodstream. (ex. “Followers of bicycling at one time speculated whether or not Lance armstrong doped his blood.”)</p>