So I'm not straight?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>So I had lots of friends, plenty of close friends, and have a love-hate friendship with one of them. At night I actually dream of her, cannot stop thinking of her, and blush whenever she looks at me straight in the eyes. When we're with our mutual friends it's pretty easy to brush it off, but when we text and talk alone, I feel...weird. Not that I would admit it though. </p>

<p>God, I fall in love with guys back at middle school, but I haven't felt any sparks with them since then... So... Does that mean I'm not straight??</p>

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<p>the feelings of “liking someone” is way too hard to describe so no matter how you describe your feelings towards her, i don’t think anyone can truly tell you if what you’re feeling is love (or whatever) and whether or not you’re straight or bi, or whatevs</p>

<p>the point is, only you can tell</p>

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<p>No, these seems just like hormones.
Your straight.</p>

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<p>Why bother labeling yourself?</p>

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<p>thats perfectly normal at our age, you are straight as far as i know as everyone else has said</p>

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<p>Labels shouldn’t matter. I myself am a guy who is mostly attracted to guys but I dont call myself gay because I don’t feel like I should limit myself to appreciating only one spectrum of the beauty encompassed in humanity. And every once in a while, a girl does come along that gets me riled up (cf. Julianne Hough). :wink: </p>

<p>So if you like girls, that’s great for you! But don’t limit yourself through labels.</p>

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<p>No one here can tell you definitively that you’re this or that. With time, you’ll begin to understand yourself more and more :).</p>

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<p>I’ve had such feelings about girls and I’ve always considered myself straight.</p>

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<p>it only means ur a homo</p>

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<p>This is the most beautifully described OP in the history of the internet. I congratulate you. The pathos is unavoidable.</p>

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<p>The nice thing about labels is that hey, you can totally choose your own. I mean, society can slap some on you that you might not necessarily agree with, but you still have final decision. </p>

<p>Do you feel comfortable identifying as ‘straight’? Does it match up with you? Now that you’ve started to have new feelings, maybe it’s time for a new identifier. Who knows? I personally identify as heteroromantic asexual, for example. I’m a girl who likes guys, but I don’t really have sexual interest towards anyone. People might say it’s kind of ridiculous to have such a specific name, but I like it. It works for me. Saying that I’m heterosexual doesn’t really line up.</p>

<p>Sexuality is a fluid thing, a spectrum. There are lots and lots of words out there to try and match individual feelings. Don’t limit yourself to the basic ones if they don’t work for you. However, if they do work for you, that’s great! Good luck with these new feelings! If they blossom into love, that’s awesome. If it’s just a passing thing, that’s cool too.</p>

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<p>… it’s called bisexual…</p>

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<p>Umm… I’ve never thought of labeling myself (but ‘not straight’ was the first thing that passed my mind). Whenever she looks at me in the eyes I just have the tendency to blush and look somewhere else. </p>

<p>It’s been awkward lately… She’s gone for the Easter holiday just yesterday and I miss her very much.</p>

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<p>Check your pants again. You might be a guy.</p>

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<p>You might be the Q in LGBTQ: Questioning.</p>

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<p>^ I agree with hewhopwnz - you may be questioning. Give it a few years, rack up evidence, sort out your feelings, etc. You’ll figure it out eventually.</p>

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She already is questioning. She wants to know if she’s the L/B.</p>

<p>If you are a girl and you are attracted to another girl, then you may be a lesbian or bisexual. However, this is mainly if you are sexually attracted to her. If it’s a non-sexual attraction, then a label based on sexual orientation would be misplaced.</p>

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<p>You know, every time I look, a new letter has been added to that LGBT thing. There seem to be a lot of variations. It’s like the “HYPSM” on this website. Some people reduce the letters, others tack on their favorite extra letter.</p>

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<p>^ What other letters have there been? All I can recall is Q.</p>

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<p>Well people don’t like other people for no reason. There’s a reason you feel that way towards her. Imagine her as a guy. Would you be seriously attracted to her if she were a guy, even MORE than you’re already attracted to her? THINK ABOUT IT.</p>

<p>If the answer is YES, you would be way more crazy about her if she were a man, then you’re STRAIGHT! This would mean that you’re attracted to her because she has a certain personal quality you admire that you haven’t yet found in a guy. Since she’s a close friend, you know each other well, & she has that admirable quality, youre hence attracted to her, but only for that reason: because a guy hasn’t come along with those special qualities you see in her. On the other hand…</p>

<p>If your answer is NO, you would be less crazy about her if she were a man, then you’re LESBIAN!/BI! this would mean you’re not only attracted to her because of her personality, but you’re also physically attracted to her since her being a man is unappealing to you. (Yet you could still like guys simultaneously and be Bi) . Hope that helped</p>