So. The GLBTQ community at UW...anyone familiar?

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<p>I think the trigger was a party I went to. Five girls, three guys. It was a birthday party for one of my friends from drama. We got it into our heads to play Spin the Bottle. They set the regulations as follows--you spin. If it lands on a person of the opposite sex, you peck them on the lips. Then they get to spin. If it lands back on you, they have to French kiss you for five seconds. Then you spin again. If it lands back on them AGAIN, you have to French kiss them for TEN seconds, and so on and so forth. If the bottle lands for the first time on a person of the SAME sex, you have to kiss them on the cheek. If they land on you, then it's a peck on the lips, and so on down the line.</p>

<p>My first spin...I landed on a girl. Pecked her on the cheek, no big deal. She spun...landed back on me. I'd never kissed a girl before...never really considered it as an option. I'd never been kissed until I was sixteen (I'm eighteen now), and I'd only kissed two people in my entire life. I was nervous. She told me to just do it, so I did. No big deal. Then I spun...and it landed back on her. And it was like falling through the floor, and flying up to heaven, and the rest is history.</p>

<p>I'd been somewhat attracted to girls, I think, prior to that. The thing is, I'm not sure. I don't remember having ANY attraction to EITHER sex, up until I was sixteen and my first boy asked me out. I didn't really feel attracted to him at the time...but he asked me, and I wanted to know what it was like to have a boyfriend, and I accepted. We dated for almost two years. I cared about him deeply. When we finally did break up, I was almost immediately asked out again,this time by a close male friend who had been working up the courage to ask me. I really thought it was a bad idea, but after a lot of prodding I said yes, not wanting to hurt his feelings. We dated for eight months, but I broke it off with him almost a month ago. I felt like I was doing something illicit, staring at this girl that I work with while I was supposed to be dating him, and I didn't feel like I loved him or wanted to be with him. So we're still friends...but. But.</p>

<p>Thus, the story of my life. I look back, and can kind of see certain patterns that might indicate a same-sex inclination...but I'm not sure if I'm just trying so hard to justify myself that I'm seeing things that aren't there. I don't know what to do. It's confusing, and lonely, and I feel like I want to just jump out of my skin and run forever...</p>

<p>...but it's nice to have people like you to talk to, in places like this.</p>

<p>Anyway. There you have it. Don't know what any of that had to do with my original posting. But, at least now you know background.</p>

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<p>Fascinating. As I'm typing this, I'm in the process of writing a research paper on the nature vs. nurture debate.</p>

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<p>Hee. Wonderful. Wrote a paper on it at one point myself.</p>

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<p>Hey, I had the same issue as you. I wasn't afraid to out myself so much because I was worried what other people would think about me being gay, but because a voice in my head kept telling me that I wasn't, that it was a phase, etc. Now I'm 'out' in a sense that I try not censor what I say or do. Like, I'll admit I'm only seeing a movie for the hot girl or something like that. But I still have only felt comfortable saying I was gay - as in, using the actual word - to a few close friends. Over time my doubts have started to dissipate...although it's taken over three years since I started questioning to get to where I am now.</p>

<p>When you go away to school though, you should definitely join any clubs they have for GLBT people, because there is no better time to squash out any self doubt or confusion you may have than in college. Maybe then it won't take you as long as me to sort through everything, having people who have been in a similar experience to talk to. It'll be the most liberal, accepting home you'll ever have...plus you may never get another chance to meet people outside of a gay bar or something, which could get weird. But don't feel pressured to put a label on yourself because "it's so much worse for everyone to know you're gay and hide it" or something else that amounts to having something to "own up to". People don't realize that being in the closet is way more complex than just not wanting people to make fun of you. </p>

<p>Just be yourself! (Yeah, way easier said than done...but trust me, it gets a lot easier and less confusing, really)</p>

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<p>MissSuperFantastic....</p>

<p>...thank you. Thank you SO much. I LOVE this forum! Everybody here is so accepting and reassuring...people who've "walked the walk," you know? It's really, really, REALLY nice to have help and support in this.</p>

<p>Now, off to work...I would HATE to miss work. ;)</p>

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<p>You should contact the president (or even any of the members) of the LGBTQ organization at UW. That's what I'm doing for my college. It's great to have initial friends even before you step on campus.</p>

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<p>Just as an aside- I'd highly recommend the movie "But I'm a Cheerleader". It may not provide any stunning revelations, but it's a very funny movie and it might make you feel better on a difficult day :).</p>

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<p>Hmm. I've never heard of it. I'll look into it, though. Thanks for the idea. :D</p>

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<p>this thread is SO gay!!</p>

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<p>not as gay as these penguins in Central Park Zoo, New York...</p>

<p><a href="http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2004/02/07/MNG3N4RAV41.DTL%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2004/02/07/MNG3N4RAV41.DTL&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p>

<p>photo: <a href="http://underwatertimes.com/news/gay_penguins.jpg%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://underwatertimes.com/news/gay_penguins.jpg&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p>

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<p>ROFL!.....</p>

<p>...<em>makes mental note never to read CC while at work again</em></p>

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<p>Woo! Lesbians!!!</p>

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<p>Lesbians, T.G.s and gays, oh my!</p>

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<p>I'm no lesbian. I still love them though.</p>

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<p>Chris C2, I have a question for you.</p>

<p>Who, in your opinion, is better-looking: </p>

<p>Michael</a> Vartan </p>

<p>or </p>

<p>Whoopi</a> Goldberg?</p>

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<p>I love asking straight guys that ^ question, because every single one i've asked has tried to avoid it. They philosophize the question or find some other way to get around it. I don't get what the big deal is. I'm so amused by straight boys' reactions. However, when I ask straight girls on their opinion of Kristen Kreuk vs. Drew Carrey, they have no problem admitting that Kristen Kreuk is more attractive (durr).</p>

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<p>I'll take Whoopi Goldberg. I'm not saying I'd enjoy it, but I also wouldn't enjoy being with another guy... not that there's anything wrong with that, it's just not my thing.</p>

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<p>That's great, Chris. However, I didn't ask whom you would prefer to be "with." I simply asked whom you find "better-looking." Nevertheless, thanks for answering. You're the first one.</p>

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<p>Heh. I've noticed that about guys too. Interesting, isn't it?</p>

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<p>I need to stop being obsessed about being gay. i think most of my most recent posts on here have been related to homosexuality in one way or another. also, i've done my bio research paper on the so-called "gay gene." in English class today, the conversation got diverted from Marxism to gay marriage and gay animals (i didn't start this topic. my teacher did, but of course i had a lot to say). i was so impassioned, i was shaking. my history project is about a gay rights activist who declassified homosexuality as a mental disorder. the local newspaper is doing an article on my experience as a homosexual teen (in relation to the project). i want to become a gay rights activist in college. i spend my weekends in the gay part of town (Chicago does have a gay district, and i feel at home there :)). i'm going to a gay prom (not the school one, of course) with the gayest boy you'll ever meet. in other words, i am so gay, i can't even believe it. lol i think this is just my way of trying to feel comfortable in my own skin. </p>

<p>Also, I can now refer to myself as a homosexual. i think the term suits my formal demeanor and style. however, I still need to work on not being afraid to go out in public with another boy. dirty looks can be enough to ruin a perfect date..</p>