<p>I was wondering a few things about Tulane: how do people dress? Do guys wear Ed Hardy and other t-shirts in class and out on weekends, or can you wear polo shirts, oxfords, etc everyday and get away with it socially? Are frats popular, and how are guys in frats treated, socially, compared to other kids? Is it like small schools where all frat guys r Gods, or bigger schools where this is not necessarily so? Do people major in things like economics, political science, biology, or do they major in vocation-type things like communications, nursing, legal studies, etc.? Are girls impressed by intelligence at Tulane, as opposed to my school, where they are not? If you're a guy, and you're not into watching TV sports, r u an automatic outcast?</p>
<p>I’ll leave the social life issues to current students, but I can answer the following:</p>
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Frats are reasonably popular. Traditionally between 25-30% of Tulane students choose to go Greek. But frat guys are definitely not Gods, lol. It is very easy and OK to not be Greek at Tulane.</p>
<p>Here is a list of the majors offered at Tulane: [Tulane</a> University - Undergraduate Majors and Minors](<a href=“http://tulane.edu/academics/majors.cfm]Tulane”>http://tulane.edu/academics/majors.cfm)</p>
<p>You seem to be asking if Tulane is like an extension of high school. That is very much not the case. But like I said, there are current students that can answer all your other questions.</p>
<p>All I can say is that my S (freshman) just called and asked me to send down all of his button down shirts - apparently people dress up a bit to go out.</p>
<p>People wear everything and anything. There is no right or wrong way.</p>
<p>As a woman myself, I love it when a man “dresses up” in the button down shirts and nice pants. It’s sometimes hard to take someone seriously in a stained T-shirt and boxers. Men typically do dress up when they go out on weekends, not always to class. </p>
<p>Girls almost always dress up for class. They put lots of effort into what they wear at Tulane.</p>
<p>No, Tulane is a large enough school were your “status” doesn’t depend on a frat membership. Tulane is a party school, but the cliques form inside the houses, not around the school in general.</p>
<p>Girls attracted to intelligence? I like to believe some girls have preferences. In general, yes, intelligence is a plus at Tulane, not something “geeky” or undesirable. That’s high school stuff, this is college. There isn’t a stereotypical male at Tulane. There’s people for everyone. Like all schools, there’s lots of idiots at Tulane, and even more prodigies. </p>
<p>Also, there are all majors. Sometimes, if you major in something really ridiculous (ie, philosophy, fine arts) you’ll occasionally get negative comments, as in, “what are you going to do with that?” (I get that, and consider my major fairly marketable with the route I’m taking after graduation.)</p>
<p>I don’t know of many vocation majors at Tulane.</p>
<p>tulanechild, what I meant by vocational majors is things like nursing, physical therapy, occupational therapy, that kind of thing. The kids who major in those at my current school are generally r-tards. I’m happy intelligence is a plus at Tulane, whereas at my school, it seems not to matter that much. My intellect is the biggest thing I have going for me in life. Obviously girls everywhere are attracted to looks, but here, it seems there’s a large emphasis, despite the lopsided 13:5 girl-guy ratio, if you’re not a hot guy, or tall, its not easy. I’m in a frat at my school, tho my frat is extremely cliquey, where most kids in a clique have never hung out with kids from other cliques, or almost never do. This compares to one of the three other frats here, which is more fraternal. The third frat is the hot-guy, SGA member frat, that kind of thing.</p>
<p>I didn’t realize you were a transfer student. I thought this was the usual “applying to college, omg I’m growing up” jitters, which I experienced. </p>
<p>I think you’re a little old to be concerned about things like this, and should not base your choice of school on how girls will/might receive you. You should be looking at the quality of Tulane as a school, its programs, and determining if it is a match for you. A girlfriend/partner will come in time–focus on what’s important. </p>
<p>You don’t seem very respectful about your peers studying work related majors. People majoring in vocation majors (which Tulane doesn’t offer, as far as I know–maybe paralegal studies), aren’t ■■■■■■■, they know what they want to do in life, and are in training for that career. It’s the European way of handling things, and, frankly I think more Americans need to be adopting the tradition instead of majoring in “philosophy” “dance” or “art” and struggling with the job market and student debt for thirty years. (Granted, if you want to be a professor or teacher, these majors make sense, and if you go to a prestigious school for fine arts, you’re probably set.)</p>
<p>Regardless, there are “idiots,” as I explained, at every school, in every major, in every part of the world. You’re going to encounter them regardless, so try to see the good side of things, and not stereotype them. </p>
<p>Just relax. You’ll realize (if you apply and are accepted–make sure your stats are high, they are picky with transfers) how silly you’re being. No one cares about this stuff at Tulane. It’s college and there’s like 1,000,000 students. And lots of king cake.</p>
<p>Wait, are you a ■■■■■? Did I just feed a ■■■■■ with my wonderfully crafted response? Oh, no.</p>
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<p>I’m not a ■■■■■. Why do I care about how women see me? Well, I’m a man, but more importantly, a person. I need someone to care about me, someone to love me, and yes, I want the validation. Lack of love/affection/sex is very bad for mental health in all people, men and women. Its also very hard for me to make general friends here, women and men. We all need a social support network and friends. I feel that an atmosphere where intelligence and intellect are valued is where I’d thrive best because it affects the mentality of the kids in terms of what they value in friends and who they chose to associate with. Less intelligent kids are less likely to have respect for smarter people, which in turn means less likely of them asking them to hang out.</p>
<p>Well, I’ve been looking at your other posts. You have some creepy tendencies, such as stalking women/obsessing over women/asking online “how to make friends”/switching schools because you act like an idiot and people don’t want to hang out with you/failing your classes.</p>
<p>At some point, you’re going to have to realize you are who you are, and you can’t run away. If you’re socially awkward, I’m not going to write an manifesto trying to make you feel better about it–just accept you’re socially awkward and make the best out of what you have. There could be so many worse things. You’re already a junior, there’s no point in transferring. Stick it out!</p>
<p>Also, while I agree with social support networks, I don’t buy the “lack of love/affection/sex” is “very bad for the mental health in all people, men and women” spiel. Dating isn’t a game. You don’t need a girl, or sex, just because you’re lonely. We’re not objects to fill your void. Stop searching. I promise you’ll be much happier.</p>
<p>I don’t stalk anyone, child. Its easy for you to lecture me that I should be complacent to have few friends and no social life, but have you ever thought for a minute what it would be like if you were in my shoes? I’ve improved upon where I went wrong in the past, but its too little too late. But then again, if I’d have been a good fit, I wouldn’t have tried to so hard in the first place, meaning much of the things I did I would not have done. Tulanechild, if you had a poor reputation where you went to school, I’d suspect you’d possibly think of transferring. I’m sorry I didn’t have the automatic social skills you had.</p>
<p>I’m sorry that I, like all people, want love, affection, and yes sex. I don’t see why that means I call women objects. And I’ll use the word “need” too: psychological studies have shown that those without such things have mental health deficiencies, which lead to frustration, depression, and suicide, because of the feelings of self-worthlessness. I’m currently on such a path. I want appreciation, and validation like all people.</p>
<p>Who you are and what you’re about also affects making same-sex friends. The fact I didn’t start out with being a similar major, background, ethnicity, interests, also explains why I didn’t make friends easily in the first place here and still have trouble. I don’t take most of the classes others take, dont’ have the same things to talk about, make small talk about a lot of the time, and didn’t back in 2008. I don’t dress, nor did I ever, like kids here: what you look like matters and everyone knows it.</p>
<p>Quit harping.</p>
<p>That’s an interesting (unreferenced) study. I practice abstinence, and have refrained from casual dating, but am not frustrated/depressed/suicidal/posting on loveshack.org forums asking how to find a “sex buddy.” And yes, I’ve had my share of opportunities to date men. It hasn’t been hard or difficult for me to say “no” or “I don’t need this to be happy” or “I’m not ready for a relationship like this at the moment.”</p>
<p>Not finding friends because there’s “no one in my major” is a terrible excuse. Your friends don’t have to be carbon copies of you. They don’t have to have the same interests. That’s the fun of friends. Ethnicity? You’re Jewish. A secular Jew. You’re not exactly walking the Orthodox path, so please don’t play the, “I’m Jewish and no one likes me. I wish I was Italian” card. This isn’t 1920s Poland. </p>
<p>Furthermore, what on earth are you doing up at this hour? I’m writing a novel, and have an excuse. Go to bed.</p>
<p>Mikki - I agree with what tulanechild is trying to tell you. Maybe the school you are at now is more like an extension of high school. If your description is accurate is certainly seems to have a lot of those characteristics. Schools that are academically more competitive like Tulane are not.</p>
<p>Also, Tulane is not a vocational school. It is a high level research university. I think some of the frustration with your posts revolves around the fact that as a junior in college you should have some feeling for different universities and their place in the world, so to speak, as well as the fact that you could have found that information online quite easily. More easily, in fact, than posting the question on here and waiting for an answer.</p>
<p>Finally, if you are a junior in college, I agree with tulanechild that it makes little sense to transfer now, unless you are so miserable that it is actually detrimental to your well being. I do understand the human need for companionship, of course. But relating that to where you go to college is somewhat off base. Schools like Tulane are a bit like a small to meduim sized town, with lots of different personality types. They cannot be generalized so easily. Based on what you say, you have a better chance of finding people more like yourself in grad school, if that is in your plans. Just know that if you do transfer this late in your college career, it is likely that you will have to take extra time to graduate. Rarely do credits transfer so perfectly that you fulfill all the requirements, and usually there are other issues as well, so it might take you an extra semester or two in order to complete all the courses and answer all other issues Tulane or another college might require to graduate.</p>
<p>Transferring with more than 60 credits (that you want to be approved at Tulane) must be specially approved, fyi. Tulane prides itself on students staying at their university for a full undergraduate experience and makes sure you spend at least two years studying here.</p>