Social life = partying?

<p>Hi... I'm a current junior and Wellesley is in my top 4 (considering applying ED). This is going to make me sound like a complete loser, but here goes. I've heard a lot of negative comments surrounding Wellesley's supposed "lack of social life"; however, it sounds like a lot of people equate a 'social life' with partying. I personally hate parties, but I don't want to be sitting around doing homework on a Friday night either.My idea of being social is spending time with a few good friends, going into the city, going out for coffee, just hanging out, etc. Would I be able to find that at Wellesley? When people talk about social life, do they mean parties? Thanks for any responses =)</p>

<p>Here's my take on the Wellesley social scene-</p>

<p>When I visited, I was placed with a hostess who didn't seem very social. She did have friends, but not the kind of social life I'd expect from a college student. I'm told by others that their hostesses seemed very outgoing. No college is completely devoid of a social life- I get the impression that Wellesley has a fair number of guest speakers, movies, etc, and that most of the girls there are happiest spending their evenings doing just what you described- low key activities with friends. It sounds like you'd fit in fine.</p>

<p>One last thought- you may find that as you go through your senior year, you start to like parties a lot more than you did- or you might not. I NEVER went to parties my junior year, never could stand drunk people, and didn't understand the appeal of big gatherings. That's changed for me this year, and it has for most of my friends. Although I'm not much of a drinker, I like parties, and I'm afraid Wellesley may be a little sleepier than I'm used to. But it's right near Boston, so there are always schools that have more of a party scene.</p>

<p>Thanks, elizabeth22... good luck at Wellesley next year =)</p>

<p>Of all the places I've been Wellesley is most definately the friendliest and everybody there is so supportive and outgoing. While there isn't much of a party scene at Wellesley, its also not a nunnery and they do socialize. I'm a laid-back person and even after my senior year of high school, I'm still not fond of giant parties. I'm not going to be attending Wellesley but I got the chance to visit it and I really loved the environment there. Its really laid-back and kind of like going to school in a park. People were playing rugby on the lawn, going for runs during the day. At night, there was a group of girls just sitting around having an American Idol marathon or hanging out at Molly's pub listening to the live bands. There was also posters all over the place with events out the wazoo. And unlimited ICE CREAM. I think Wellesley girls find ways to keep themselves busy socially. But maybe it was the novelty of it all and I might get tired of it after four years. But honestly, I think it just depends on your take on things. Good luck with your college search. Spend some time writing your essays over the summer. Trust me, you'll be happier later on.</p>

<p>Thanks so much :) You are very helpful.</p>

<p>soooooooooooooo i attend wellesley college (i will write this post in a very lax manner-forgive any punctuation/spellings/capitalizations). I will try my very best to honestly answer your question.</p>

<p>First of all, no matter where you go (and i promise you, you will all attend the college that is right for you) how active you decide to be in the "social scene" is really up to you. Before i go into how i think the social life is, let me tell you a bit about myself. I would have never ever though i would attend a women's college--ever. a majority of my closest friends in highschool, other than my two best friends, were boys. my friends still joke that im "a guy" and all that stuff. (i skipped out of three prom invites because i dont like dress shopping, im not much of a dancer, and i saw awesome rollerblades that i decided to buy instead of a dress) in highschool, i was very involved in many activities and was not a heavy partier...i liked just chilling with my friends over big parties and whatnot. i didn't really date much in highschool just cuz i found it more fun to be friends with guys.</p>

<p>at wellesley, i enjoy visiting some of the frats at MIT (my boyfriend is in one....who would have known that within a few months i would find a guy i actually wanted to date...while attending a <em>gasp</em> women's college!), going into the ville (the town of wellesley) with friends, and just hanging out on campus. first semester, i found myself going into boston/mit a lot, attending parties here and there...mit guys/frats are very different from what i would imagine to be a typical frat..the guys are nice and gentlemanly (at least the ones i have met) and so its very easy to find friends there who are really just, nice guys. wellesley college is VERY good about taking care of us and everyday, there is a bus to MIT...every hour. we have many many cross registering programs with a number of schools, mit being one of them, and so this (free) bus is an excellent way to just take a clas at mit, visit friends, or an easy way to get to a T to hang out in boston. on the weekends, for a small fare, this bus changes its route and stops at harvard, then mit, then the street all the mit frats/Boston University dorms are on. this bus goes every 40 minutes. you can ALWAYs get off campus (cept maybe 1-7 am or something on weekdays and 3-7 on weekends). also, a lot of my friends go to babson a lot (afterall, their male:female ratio is like 3:2 and so i see babson boys on campus all the time--heck sometimes i wish they would all leave (haha just kidding). </p>

<p>As second semester rolled around, i found myself staying on campus a lot more. part of it was cuz i was on a varsity sport, but the other part was because i realized that there are sooooooo many things to do on campus...often times i just had my bf come to wellesley. for example, there's collin's cinema where there's a new or two movie every weekend, we're getting a new student center which should be AMAZING (I cant wait!! AND we get 200 dollars a semester as part of our awesome eat as much/many times as you want meal plan to get student center food), there are numerous sports events you could attend with friends, countless theatre/musical productions, as well as the society parties (a bit like soroities but they also sponser many lectures and whatnot), our big campus parties, traying down severence when it snows, etc. i went to a ludacris concert (free for students--everything at wellesley, pretty much, is free for students) just two months ago at school. we have tower court in the beginning of the year where guys and girls from all over the boston area come to "party" with us..it's like a laid back dance i suppose. i'm not sure whats going on with the hoop, el table, and molly's pub--i think they might be moving to the student center, but studnets like to hang out there.. as long as YOU want to make the smallest bit of effort, there are so many things to do.</p>

<p>finally, i'd like to say, the women here are so amazing. it is impossible to not be inspired by your peers. you may come in as the most timid, quiet, and insecure person, but i guarentee that you will leave here, perhaps not the most outspoken or bold person, but a little more confident, secure, strong, and independent. my peers and sisters here at wellesley never cease to amaze me in their sincerity, intelligence, caring, and love. we challenge each other to see things in different lights while accepting each other for who they are. we are "strong, intelligent, independent women" (as my friends and i like to say) and we are proud of it. i love being in a class where girls are not afraid to say what's on their mind. i was tired of being in a mainly guy-dominated classroom and i LOVE when the random guy-exchange-student realizes he's in a room full of insightful women and stays quiet.</p>

<p>it's getting wicked late so sorry if all of this was hard to undertand but i hope it helped! i really hope that you decide to apply to wellesley college because i know that this place will really make a difference in my life, and i-in turn-will make a difference in the world. (wellesley campaign last year: women who will....make a difference...in the world) :-D gluck!</p>

<p>Yikes! My friend recently sent me this link:<br>
<a href="http://www.jaydixit.com/writing/wellesley.htm%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://www.jaydixit.com/writing/wellesley.htm&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p>

<p>Any thoughts?</p>

<p>oh plenty of thoughts. gosh that article as well as a few others popped up on community (our forum type discussion board for anything and everything at wellesley) and boy did our student body have a lot to say bout it. overall, excuse the language, but that's a load of bull. so i wont say im 100 percent positive that there are no relationships with professors or whatnot (since i dont know) but frankly, i doubt its any different from any other school. <em>shruG</em> frankly, as we see it, journalists want to sell their newspapers and magazines. what better than to write about a <em>gasp</em> "all girls school" were all the girls are soooooooooo desperate that they will fall for any boy who walks by! (please note the sarcasm) as far as i can tell, i have friends who are boy crazy and friends who are definitely not. for the few who are boy crazy, i think they were like that before coming to wellesley--but that's just my opinion..and i go there. </p>

<p>dyke ball is something that is a wellesley safe space event. it is for our community. it is a chance for people to express themselves or their creativity. personally, i did not go to dyke ball, but i know a lot of people who did and had a lot of fun. it's ONE "dance" out of a number that are on campus. somehow reporters fail to mention that....<em>shruG</em></p>

<p>Thank you so much! Makes Wellesley even more attractive. Yeah, I read that article a while ago, and a friend who goes to Wellesley said it was completely untrue.</p>