@HydeSnark
You said: “the social scene is great if you’re not a fan of partying and get awful FOMO”
This describes perfectly why UChicago isn’t for everyone. There are a significant number of college students (even at top schools) who want partying to be a considerable part of their college experience.
@omguchicago and @JHS
You both describe what I remember social life at Chicago to be like about 20 years ago! I had (and continue to have) an ambivalent view toward Chicago’s social life. For some in my day (and they tended to be the scav hunt types) - it was paradise. I remember classmates/dorm mates who had all-night nintendo parties, role-playing game sessions, bad movie nights, etc. They found quite a few other people who were interested in all the wacky activities that made them feel castigated in high school. Further, NO ONE at Chicago judged social activities. It was a very laissez faire attitude - if you wanted to play Dungeons and Dragons all day, no one cared. You could probably find a bunch of people who’d like to join.
For me, I always found the social scene to be a bit tepid. Yes, there were frat parties, but they didn’t resemble (at all) the parties I went to when I visited friends at other colleges. Yes, there were apartment parties, but they tended to be rather low key affairs. I’m pretty sure, in my day, people went to Dartmouth or Cornell or Duke because they wanted to party for four years, at least 2-3 times a week, at a good school. I don’t think I knew ANYONE at Chicago like that. I contrast this with my time at Penn as a grad student observing undergrads. I was always surprised by the remarkable intensity of the social/partying life. Especially for freshman, the social scene could be a blurry/drunken haze. Walk around the various frat rows, and they’re buzzing with activity/mayhem on weekends. Things at Chicago seemed tamped down.
Additionally, the city of Chicago gets a lot better after you turn 21. The museums/symphony/restaurants are great, but the city is even better, in terms of concerts, bars, (and having disposable money) for those 21+. In some ways, UChicago may offer more for grad students than undergrads for this reason. It was also a bit time-consuming to get downtown without a car.
The A-level and the Reg certainly were hubs for social activity. For some, again, this was paradise. They could study and take breaks at midnight with other nerdy students! Let’s play assassins in the stacks at 4am! Let’s hang out at Ex Libris (a coffee shop) and procrastinate! I found it a little depressing that the library was a social hub - more so even then our small student union (the Reynolds Club) or any other space on campus.
All of it felt a little tamped down and a little oppressive. I loved my concentration and my academics, but I felt that, at Chicago, I could also never fully get away from my books. Students might take a night or two off to pursue other activities, but for the most part, people kept grinding. Further, with mid-terms and exams always looming, many students spent more than a few quiet Friday or Saturday nights in the library, studying hard. I felt that we had more quiet Friday and Saturday nights than our peers elsewhere.
I bring this topic up on occasion here, and I’m always surprised by the consistency of responses.