<p>I've heard repeatedly about how some transfer students struggle maintaining a healthy social life. Is this true? </p>
<p>I plan on transferring to UCLA for Fall07 and I'm definitely going to live in my own apartment. I know some people at UCLA but they're acquaintances at most. Would you mind giving me some pointers on how or where I can make some new friends? :D</p>
<p>Some have suggested to join clubs/organizations but the response is always ambiguous—they never know which clubs/organizations would fit me lol. Others suggested big(?) parties but I also heard some are exclusive ... so I'm a little confused.</p>
<p>I'm wondering about this myself but i don't think it'll be too bad..</p>
<p>I think if you make a couple 'close' friends you'll be able to go to parties, or any other activities, and be able to make friends with their friends. I think it will probably be easier to socialize at smaller parties, opposed to bigger parties, because I've noticed at bigger parties people just pretty much keep to their little group of friends. So its a bit harder to socialize with random people in large parties because they'll be with all of their friends and it's a little bit more intimidating?</p>
<p>btw i would consider >75-100 persons a large party</p>
<p>I don't understand why this is such a big issue.</p>
<p>Just go up to people and talk to them. Build some rapport and exchange digits, it's not that hard.</p>
<p>I transfered to Wharton and the first day, I went up to random people on the benches, dining hall, etc. and my conversations went pretty mcuh like this:</p>
<p>Me: Hey whats going on guys?
Them: Hey
Me: I just transfered here, it's my first day on campus, what do you guys think of the school?
Them: I like it blah blah blah
Me: Thats awesome, check this out I was.....(funny story)
Them: hahaha
Me: I've gotta get going but you guys seem chill, we should hang sometime, lets exchange numbers.</p>
<p>I basically did this 50+ times, and now I'm not only hooked up at Wharton, but around the city as well.</p>
<p>exactly what "thewartonschool" said. Its not that difficult. Don't supress yourself to a cliqueish crowd, just go up to random people and talk to them.</p>
<p>I don't understand why people are so afraid of meeting people as a transfer. It is not hard to meet people if you are nice and actually talk to people. Just go out and talk to some people, show up to a couple parties and you'll meet friends. stop worrying!</p>
<p>There are just some people who don't have that natural charisma. And those are asking for help. It's not easy for everyone to be social.</p>
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Me: Hey whats going on guys?
Them: Hey
Me: I just transfered here, it's my first day on campus, what do you guys think of the school?
Them: I like it blah blah blah
Me: Thats awesome, check this out I was.....(funny story)
Them: hahaha
Me: I've gotta get going but you guys seem chill, we should hang sometime, lets exchange numbers.
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<p>I would not break the ice that way, LOL. Especially, if you're unattractive...that would not work. The group will just think you're just some random idiot trying to be funny.</p>
<p>Kevintech, you are utterly cluless. We're not picking up chicks, why the hell do you have to be good looking? Unless your gay, I don't give a crap if my guy friend is ugly or attractive.</p>
<p>I teach workshops around the country on socializing and vibing with people. I've taken guys who were very shy and reserved, had them effectively going into groups of random people and befriending all of them. This does work.</p>
<p>"The group will just think you're just some random idiot trying to be funny."</p>
<p>Limiting belief my friend, expand your mind.</p>
<p>I haven't even gone to the school, but I've made quite a few friends and acquaintances so far..
met through parties and what not. Small talk, that's the trick.</p>