<p>Oh, I really hope you don't mean.........tenniscraze...........Good Lord, I was looking at previous threads on Greek life at UVA and got the biggest headache ever from his posts Please!!!! Let's not go there. I need >>>>Sorority rushing 101. Please start from the basics, because I have no one to guide me through this process, but I'm excited and it sounds like fun.
Advice, Motherdear?? So I need a recommendation letter? I need a greeting card? Dress advice for the week?
I want to be Greek and I'm proud!</p>
<p>hahahahahahahahahahahahahahah</p>
<p>yea he like never goes on anymore
though he DOES have the sweetest room setup EVER this year - a brown room without a roommate, so two brown rooms, and one of them is a corner room... basically amazingness</p>
<p>holy crap.</p>
<p>np99sky, be warned that the greek culture here in the south is much, much more intense than in California. You certainly need not resort to sororities in order to avoid not knowing anyone. UVA is a pretty social place and you'll find your niche for sure. Social life doesn't revolve around greek life only. In fact, I discourage you from joining sororities because you might end up finding your social life very superficial. Remember, make full use of the four years of university life that you have!</p>
<p>powderpuff, you really puzzle me. You 'want to be greek and you're proud'? I don't understand how you can be 'proud' if you haven't ever experienced what greek life is really like.</p>
<p>look what happens when you all open your mouths....sheesh =P</p>
<p>Yeah, tenniscraze, I'm just an enigma. Glad you are puzzled.</p>
<p>I was going to say to tenniscraze's first post. Wow, he's toned it down a lot. Maybe he's a decent guy after all. </p>
<p>Then the next post. ..no.</p>
<p>But powderpuff if you wade through that lengthy thread there's quite a bit of useful info in there. =)</p>
<p>Thanks Melli, I've waded through it. I guess my biggest question is this: I know they say to keep your mind open to the different sororities, you know, don't get your heart set on one--and that is just fine with me. I prefer it that way, however, people talk about getting letters of recommendation. Should I for some; it's kind of a hassle, but not impossible? It seems to go counter to the former advice. I'm 5'2", eyes are blue, petite--I think I'm stylish (get complimented often). I'm smart, have a sense of humor and am personable. I'm also very serious about school and study very hard. I'm OOS and worked really hard to get here. The reason I describe myself is just so you get a snap shot of who I am (obviously, just a snapshot)>>which is what the sorority rush will see too. Are the letters really necessary, or are they looking more at the candidate? Oh yes, I've got the Jackie O pearls to complete the picture!!</p>
<p>you don't need a letter of recommendation. i don't know who starting saying this but i've never heard of anyone having one. (judging from the people who are in frats and sororities, including myself, they wouldn't be taken seriously anyway)</p>
<p>Thanks jags! I'm not go down that road then, of getting LOR's. I appreciate your response.</p>
<p>You know if you're 5"2, the popular sororities like the Kappas won't even consider you. You might be blonde, stylish and have blue eyes, but your height will be a negative factor they'll take into account. Therefore, you're more likely to get into the reject sororities here and I'll name three of the least popular ones in UVA: Alpha Delta Pi (which by the way, makes their girls wear obnoxious t-shirts that have starbucks logo - with big words ALPHA DELTA PI - on different days, Gamma Phi Beta and Tri-Sigma.</p>
<p>In all honesty, your personality and intelligence are important. But as melli admitted, the process is indeed horrible. Not only are you judged for your character, but money and looks are also vital qualities to sororities. This means that your parents (or whoever provides financial support) will be judged. I personally would not want to humiliate or pride myself in this manner. I think you can think for yourself how superficial the system really is; you're even willing to go to the extent of getting recs just to join some sorority. Is it really an educational experience to be in one after all? I highly doubt it.</p>
<p>And oh, pearls are old story. :) I hope this helps!</p>
<p>O'course, what I meant by horrible was the cold, rushing around to get to houses on time, aching feet and face, and boring waiting times between houses. Bring a book small enough to stuff somewhere, it was my lifesaver. =)</p>
<p>And truly, don't worry about letters of recommendation. They help, but don't bust your brain getting them.</p>
<p>tenniscraze, I do believe that you've softened with time :), thanks for your thoughtful input. You have some good points--good to have balance in this decision. As for my 5'2" stature, bummer, I'm gonna have to figure out a way to conceal my 2" heels, or just take my chances with comfortable shoes (probably the latter).
I confess to deliberately trying to egg you on with my JackieO pearls comment, but you know what>>>You didn't take the bait! Hah, good for you!
Thanks again!</p>
<p>Tenniscraze, Why do you consider Tri Sigma and Gamma Phi Beta the least popular? What reputation are you basing this on?</p>
<p>Err, maybe looks and whether or not they're blonde? And their height? Lots of physical characteristics, not to mention $$$$. Sororities are superficial after all; all the girls who are rejected from the top ones - and don't fit into the stereotypical image of a sorority girl - end up in one of the "reject" sororities. Sadly, it's the truth.</p>
<p>Just as recommendations for college admissions and employment opportunities help the admissions staff or HR personnel get to know you, a recommendation for Panhel Recruitment can help the group obtain a more indepth, broader perspective of you. I would strongly advise getting recs to ALL the NPC houses at UVa and keep an open mind to the possibility of all the houses. A rec will never hurt, only help. </p>
<p>As an alumna of a GLO who works with our "top tier" (tenniscraze's designation, not mine) chapter at UVa, I will tell you that not all the actives are wealthy, tall blondes.</p>
<p>Of course not all of them are wealthy, tall blondes - I never said that anyway. What I mentioned was that these characteristics are looked for in almost sororities, especially the top ones (one of which motherdear claims to work with!). While it is never quite realistic to have tall, wealthy blondes, it remains the ideal sorority image for a top sorority. Maybe all of you could consult motherdear for more information in joining this type of sorority. Even if you got rejected from the top sorority, you'll still end up in at least the least popular ones.</p>
<p>tenniscraze, you know, when you generalize sororities like that (saying that everyone hates ADPi or G Phi B or Tri-Sig, or that all the Kappas and Thetas are spoilt sluts), you're acting worse than most of the sorority girls I know! Nobody in my sorority would ever talk down about another sorority based on unfounded generalizations! It's rude of you to judge the sororities based on your opinions, which are obviously heresay, because you aren't involved with Greek life. Unless you personally know the majority of the ADPis and can personally attest to the fact that they suck, shut the f--- up and sit the f--- down. You're obviously only parroting opinions you hear from people who are involved in the system. Strap on a pair and make up your own mind.</p>
<p>Anyway, being a member of a sorority has been a really positive experience for me. I have become incredibly close with my sisters, my dues aren't too steep, I have a lot of fun at all our events, I hold a leadership position that I really enjoy, and I love feeling like I'm part of a longstanding tradition, something that will go on forever. I would really encourage you to try rushing. My sorority has several girls from the West Coast and a few from California! I would love to meet you in January, best of luck. :)</p>