Still here for you in the days ahead if you need it!! 
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@snowball, glad to see you back here and read your update.
Sending hugs for all the days ahead.
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Snowball, my thoughts are with you and your family. What a difficult and painful journey for all of you.
Dear @snowball, what a journey you’ve had. Your H sounds like he was a wonderful person and helped so many. Maybe writing some of the memories people have shared will be good for you for now and to reread by you and loved ones later? It’s just a thought.
It was lovely to read of some happy memories people had of our folks. It’s always nice to know others had fond thoughts and memories of the folks.
When my kids went to the CCRC to donate S’s flower arrangements there, they were happy to hear from staff that they all remembered and missed mom.
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Thank you for giving us all an update. Please come back whenever you want. Grieving is different for everyone, of course, but the CC forums are full of good listeners.
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@snowball — please know in your heart that your wonderful husband knew that he was very loved for who he was and all he did, even if people didn’t say as much to him in words.
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I’m so glad your SIL came through in the end, albeit after putting you through the wringer. Again, my condolences.
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I made a point of going back and treating the team that had looked after my Mom in her last weeks. I figured that going back in person, showing how much the family appreciated their care, and recognizing how difficult their daily tasks must be, was in some way “paying forward”.
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Hugs @snowball, especially every time one of the “waves” overtake you. Hopefully, eventually most make you smile - or even laugh out loud!
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I attended a funeral at church today, in this case somebody with the good fortune to have a long and full life. One granddaughter read this poem…. I really liked it. (This is more geared toward the group, who are missing friends/family… I know at this point the grief is still very new for Snowball, hard to find comfort. It never gets easy missing a loved one, but over time it does get easier.)
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Ah, @snowball, so sorry!
Thank you, I just took a screen shot, getting hospice started for FIL (96, still in his home with 95 year old MIL, things are going south rapidly, goodbyes are being said). They have 12 grandchildren and I know some will want to participate at the services. OP is still in my thoughts, both of my parents passed around this time of year, and it’s bittersweet, the sadness but also seeing loved ones and making new memories.
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Thinking of you @snowball. Marveling at how you navigated some very challenging waters. Hang in there 
I was thinking about my own cruddy relationship with the winter holidays, and @snowball came to my mind. I sincerely hope you and your kids will have a blessed and peaceful Hanukkah season (yes, I know it’s a few weeks away, but I wanted to send my wish while I’m thinking about it).
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Snowball, thank you for sharing your story. I’m so sorry for your loss.
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