<p>OH MY!!! I haven’t laughed that hard in a while. Thanks sailor-chica. Those two guys are my teenage heroes. The poor principal.</p>
<p>SC Looks fun to me as long as some guy/girl isn’t grinding on a non consenting 14 year old. Then it would perhaps be sexual harassment.
It’s a free lap dance.
I don’t think I would say that if I had any daughters. Anyone with daughters going to SPS want to comment?</p>
<p>Sarum - what every girl should know for this situation or others where the advance is unwanted - JUST SAY NO! and walk away.</p>
<p>My own child has never reported issues when taking this approach.</p>
<p>Not to sound lenient but I don’t see a problem with 2 high schoolers grinding as long as both are consenting. Every generation has their “thing”. Given other things teens do this seems fairly mild. </p>
<p>i agree with sailor chica that this goes on everywhere. Funny video BTW!</p>
<p>I will be reviewing the Grinding Rules with my 13 year old daughter before she leaves for St. Paul’s and she will have to demonstrate all her dance moves before we allow her to get on the airplane. </p>
<p>Seriously, I really detest how music and dancing is so sexualized. I stopped listening to urban/pop radio in my car when while listening to a song my daughter, who was about six asked me “Mom, why does she want to lick him from head to toe.” We switched permanently to NPR and talk radio. Today she listens to whatever she likes, and to be honest I have no idea what that is, but I do know that she is really turned off by songs that denigrate women. I am having frank conversations with her all the time about appropriate behavior. That includes behavior with boys. I am in no way naive enough to think she will not behave like a “typical teenager” but I am confident that she is armed with enough information and has enough moral fortitude to be able to make the right calls about how to behave. Part of the learning process at boarding school is being able to make good decisions and I trust the my d will do just that.</p>
<p>sailor-chica: That youtube vid is sooooo funny and part 2 is funnier!</p>
<p>I do have a daughter and the idea of her “grinding” at a school dance makes me want to throw up. I think you can be a “typical teenager,” but should also conduct yourself with self respect.</p>
<p>Seriously, though…what can we do? In the 1960’s, the generation before us felt the same way about the “gyrations of Elvis”. Wasn’t it the Ed Sullivan show that cut him off from the waist down?</p>
<p>We can’t do anything except hope they do what they want and not what peer pressure dictates.</p>
<p>^^^
Exactly, keylyme. Conversations with your kids - prior to starting BS, but also keeping up communication during school as well as major debriefings on breaks - are really important. Some things we’ve encountered over the past 2 years bearing discussion weren’t necessarily on my radar screen before sending my child off. Keep those communication lines open but trust that you’ve instilled your values in your child as well. While I’ve talked with my child about grinding, which by the way starts among some kids in our public school system in 7th grade (!), there are many, many issues I would prioritize ahead of that, personally. I’ve always felt strong self-esteem is the most important character trait a child can bring to BS.</p>
<p>We just dance differently from our parents. If it is all in good fun then it is normal but if it’s overly sexual then it’s not fun to be around. I would expect an adult to step in and stop it immediately. I’d be very uncomfortable!</p>
<p>I don’t really see the big deal. If your daughter or w.e doesn’t want to then she will turn down the guy. What makes me mad is when parents try and get involved in kids lives other than their children. Some parents need to butt-out. There not going to stop anything, even if the “rule” at the school changes.</p>
<p>It looks a lot worse than it really is although I don’t do the kind of dancing/grinding that you see on tv and videos. It’s just dancing. I guess if the younger kids knew what it really implied they’d be embarrassed. I’m kind of embarrassed just thinking about it! Fun is fun though.</p>
<p>I’m not sure who doesn’t understand what it implies…maybe middle schoolers. I just don’t think anyone cares…</p>
<p>I can see how parental intervention in super sexual relationships may work, but people don’t give the kid room to breathe when they involve themselves in every aspect of our lives. Perfect example, my mom used to check my grades every day and ask me why I got a 60% in participation during health (though she happily evades my 100% test) and so forth. </p>
<p>I am not saying grinding is good or bad, but the line has to be drawn somewhere, right? Don’t listen to me, though, haha. In 7th grade we could take a robot baby (******* baby) home for extra credit… I got a 27/100 on it. In spite of duck taping the chin to the chest so his head doesn’t go up, sticking him everywhere at once… </p>
<p>And as kentschoolie pointed out, what TV makes it look like is a lot worse than it is. Exactly like Disney channel, people are not REALLY that stupid in high school. We are a tad above that.</p>
<p>Are you in highschool yet?</p>
<p>Yes. 10 characters.</p>
<p>…? Then why do you switch highschools to take a higher math class? Your school doesn’t have it…?</p>
<p>I used to switch (during JH), I am only a Freshman. And soon I will have to switch starting next year (or the year after if they add a course). Currently, though, I am at my high school.</p>
<p>Your not going to boarding school? Why would you have to switch next year.</p>
<p>In my current school… That is one of the reasons I applied to boarding school in the first place…</p>