<p>I unfortunately didn't go to college right after high school, and now I'm finally headed there. I'll be going to a large state university in the fall and I'll be a freshman.</p>
<p>I can choose to live in a freshman dorm or an upperclass dorm because I'm over 21. I don't know where I'd fit in the best. I think that upperclassmen will already have their friends and social atmosphere set, making it harder to make friends, whereas all the freshmen are going through the same thing and so friendship naturally comes easier. But I'm also afraid of not fitting in with the freshmen.</p>
<p>However, I may be looking too deeply into the situation. I know I'll be able to make friends no matter what, but I can't help but wonder what the most comfortable situation would be.</p>
<p>If any of you guys have any advice for me, I'd be deeply appreciative. Thanks in advance.</p>
<p>i'm sure you'll fit in fine with either crowd, but you're right that the freshman will be going through the same thing. maybe check to see if they have dorms for transfers that you can get into - there you'll get older people who are still new there.</p>
<p>also...this will probably come across kind of badly, but any freshman will more than likely love having you in their dorms - especially if you will buy alcohol for them.</p>
<p>boatman, imo u shd stay with the freshmen.... stayin with the upperclass people might just deepen the already gaping age difference. make friends with the freshmen. im sure itd be fine!</p>
<p>maybe even worship you =)
who cares about age
in grad school and real life, no one really cares about a few years difference...
ppl need to get used to that, lol</p>
<p>I dropped out after 1 year. I'm transferring back into school now, but I'll probably start as freshman since I'm drastically changing my intended major (from politics to mathematics). By September, I'll be 23.</p>
<p>I'm thinking of going with the upperclassman dorm, or a mixed dorm, whatever they have. I think I'm too cynical to be with all naive freshmen to really make a lot of friends - not just that they won't like me, but also that I won't like as many of them as if they were older.</p>
<p>I could be wrong but I think for me, it's safer to go with the older kids... Any college juniors/seniors can comment? Do any of you find yourselves cynical on more than one occasion? I know it's my job in business that did most of this to me, so my logic (older=less idealistic) may not apply.</p>
<p>I just want friends, for the time being... I'm gonna be breaking up with my boyfriend of 2 years to move to whatever college I get into, unless Columbia miraculously admits me AND gives me a lot of money, so it'll be a long time until I can date again.</p>
<p>I'd be with the freshman in your case because you'll have more classes with them, and they will not have any friends yet. I wouldn't be concerned at all about being older than them because they probably wouldn't know it just by looking at you. My boyfriend and I are both 4th years.. only he's 25 and I'm 22. I had no clue he was older until our first date when he said something about 'a few years ago on my 21st bday'</p>
<p>Hmm... What did he do for the 4 years he wasn't in school?</p>
<p>The thing is, even when I talk to my friends from high school, none of which dropped out and all are basically the same age as I, I feel like there's some gap between us because I'm more cynical now, just from being in business and seeing some crap, seeing how people really are, having an overtly racist neighbor, stuff like that.</p>
<p>It's funny, I'm more cynical than my boss at work, though he's 65 and he's held some really impressive positions at really big companies. (Wrote me a recommendation.) I think the term "realistic" is more correct, but most people don't think they're unrealistic, so I think it's better for this discussion...</p>
<p>some freshmen look like fresh young kiddies, while others look like they're 35. and you're a female? females dont even have to worry because you all look more or less the same age. (i should clarify - from age 16-25 girls dont change much)</p>
<p>The freshmen will love you because you can buy them booze. And I disagree, it's the upperclassmen who are more serious because they realize they are running out of time, freshman year is all about getting trashed.</p>
<p>See if you can get in a dorm with a large amount transfer students, that way there will be more people closer to your age who are also new to the school.</p>