If they (the state school safeties) are affordable and she’d like attending, then you’re all set.
A safety must be both - not just affordable and an easy in. They must be happy to attend - or shouldn’t be on your safety list. btw - lots of state schools all over the country offer awesome merit aid - and most today have Honors Colleges - which can take a huge school and make it smaller. But there’s wonderful mid size state schools too - like where my daughter chose over higher ranked schools - College of Charleston where she’s both a Fellow and an International Scholar (and dad pays no tuition and we are OOS - that’s just an added bonus).
The first thing - in my belief - one must do is to set a budget. I’m full pay as well - so when we took the Georgetown tour and my daughter loved it - all I heard was need based only. So it was out - and I told my daughter once we got home a few days later. That took Cornell and Tufts off her list too. We were at WUSTL for my son - and they push push push push the heck out of ED and I said - what if I don’t like the offer. And they said if you can’t afford it we’ll release you. And I said - it’s not can I afford it, it’s do I want to afford it? For me, the answer was no. So my daughter applied to 21 schools - and all 21 offered the opportunity of merit. Once we got her 17 acceptances we sat down - and I left any on the table that were $50K or less. That eliminated American (originally her top choice but she had zero beefs with it gone), Miami and more.
So if merit matters - you need to lose Tufts, Gtown and Brown - because there is none. Now a Vandy has but it’s not easy but they have - so that’s the kind you can keep. CMU doesn’t meet need…but i’d look at each school.
But a Tufts can be replaced with a Brandeis for example…or if you’re open to moving - a Rice, etc. - so if you are lucky enough to get in, there’s at least the “possibility” of merit, even if it’s small.
You might look at schools a notch below - because where you are superior is where you get money - so you may get into a Wake or Rochester but you are just another great student - whereas at an SMU you are above board - if that makes sense.
Don’t turn away great publics too - from your UFs (cheap) but big to Pitt, FSU, Indiana, Miami Ohio, South Carolina, Alabama, Arizona - all with fine Honors Colleges, merit - sometimes great. Or if you want mid size, let us know.
The fact that you have state schools on the list - I think that makes your list fine - but look into not if you need merit - but you want it - ie you don’t want to pay $360K for Tufts…and as was also brought up, that you are looking a fit - but in addition to curriculum types, you’ll also get a feel as you walk campuses, talk to people, etc.
Good luck.