SUNY Stony Brook v/s San Diego State v/s Suffolk

I am trying to decide between these three universities. I’ve applied undecided to all three, but I see myself probably picking a major from the college of arts and sciences (leaning more towards a double major in performing arts and psychology). I’m kind of shy and I definitely take my time to open up, which is why I need the school to be friendly. I’ve lived all my life in a big city, so an urban/suburban setting is preferred. Really confused as to which one out of these three should I pick. Any help would be appreciated!
International student from Mumbai, India.