context: parents divorced in 2017, mother moved abroad with my younger sister and remarried. i live with my dad and we get no support, but we call each other every alternate month so i can talk to my sister.
i need a third-party documentation, basically a support letter from a teacher. i will be drafting it for the teacher, and i need to know what i have to do. will i draft it, send it over to my teacher for him to look over and then submit the letter as supporting documentation along with the waiver application?
I don’t see how you can get a noncustodial waiver if you know where your mom is and you have regular contact. If you have to actually write the letter for your teacher then it doesn’t sound like he’s familiar with your situation, so I don’t see how that will help either. Lots of people divorce and not everyone is willing/able to send financial support to the custodial parent. You can apply for the waiver, but make sure you have financial safeties on your list that you can afford if the waiver is denied.
I agree with the above poster. The third party letter is supposed to be written by someone who knows the situation well and can document that the relationship between you and your mother is severed. Frankly…that relationship is not severed. I can’t imagine signing a letter someone else wrote about this. TBH, that sounds dishonest. The letter doesn’t come from you.
@ieatchili , I can’t predict the odds of whether or not your particular situation qualifies for a waiver. However, I think you’re kind of starting on the right track for the application process, except for the part about who writes the letter and, possibly, who you’re choosing to be the 3rd party.
The 3rd party should be someone who is knowledgeable about the situation and, as I understand it, someone who is not a friend or family member. A school counselor, a therapist, a social worker, etc.
Also, the 3rd party you choose should draft the letter. That’s why it’s important they know you and know the family situation enough to comment on it.
Even if you follow these rules/instructions, there is no guarantee you’ll be approved for a waiver. With that in mind, be sure you have educational options ready if you do not get the aid you require if the NCP waiver is denied.
based on what you have written, you are not eligible for a non-custodial waiver. Your mother, and now her new husband must report their income and assets no matter where they are in he world. The fact that she has remarried and left the country is not a basis for a non custodial waiver.
At the school level, non-custodial waivers are written by counselors because they have access to all of your student records that your teacher would not have.
Your GC would write about how long s/he has known you , your family and in what capacity. You can not simply write a letter and get someone to sign it for you.
I am willing to bet money that while your mom was here, that she was most likely listed as a primary parent on your school records and she is probably still listed as a person who has access to you.
You know where your mother is, you know how to reach her, there is nothing the teacher can add that would warrant a wavier
I’m pretty sure that @sybbie719 meant to write that at the school level, these letters are written by school counselors (not teachers) who have access to greater information than the teachers.
But I will add…in no way should this letter be written by the student at all.
i don’t think you understand what these waivers are for. they’re for students who have no idea where their parents are and who haven’t seen their parents since they were young children.
The waivers are essentially for students who were raised by single parents and the NCP was never really in their lives. it’s not for situations where parents split up, each parent taking/supporting one child.
Lots of custodial parents will not pay for college, there is no waiver for a non compliant parent, all you can to do is ask her to fill in the NCP part with her details, and that you understand she has no financial obligations to pay whatever the outcome. You have contact and you can ask for this to be done. She can refuse. That won’t warrant a waiver.