<p>I attended a very elite program, which shall remain nameless, long, long ago, following my undergraduate degree. There were about 20 of us in the program. Three were international students – from Italy. They cheated ALL the time. They OPENLY cheated – I mean, openly to the rest of us students, not to the instructors or staff. I was appalled. Most of us came from schools with strict honor programs that we … honored. If anybody I knew DID cheat, they certainly would not have boasted about it!</p>
<p>One day, when the Italian students were laughing and boasting to a group of us about their latest cheating escapades, I told them that most of us didn’t find it funny at all. I told them that in this country, we frown on dishonesty, including cheating. (It’s hard to have credibility behind that statement these days with all the evident dishonesty in our politics, our corporations, etc, but I digress.) Anyway, they responded to my comments with laughter and a little surprise. It was all a joke to them.</p>
<p>They told me that in their country, cheating and dishonesty to get to the top was actually kind of admired. They said that if one is clever enough to creatively cheat, and get away with it and rise to the top, that person is admired. I have no idea if they were telling us the truth that day. I have wondered if maybe THEY, specifically, were admired in Italy for some other reason, even if their culture as a whole doesn’t admire dishonesty, and if they misread that as an admiration for their “dishonesty skills.” I have also wondered if the culture as a whole DOES admire dishonesty. Two of the three weren’t very good at what we were all there to do. How did they qualify for their coveted spots? I wondered if they got there by cheating when they were students in Italy (probably). I was just bewildered about the whole thing. I still am. And this was more than 30 years ago.</p>
<p>Can a country, as a whole, admire dishonesty as long as it’s done “cleverly?” If so, perhaps what we have here, on this thread, is an example of cultural differences. That’s no excuse, mind you. When in Rome … </p>
<p>But, perhaps you are not aware, thanksipi, that dishonesty in US schools is generally not quite considered “one mistake.” It takes a willful and conscious disregard of the rules, and of what most of us in the US consider <em>morals</em>, to commit “academic misconduct.” And because it takes a willful and conscious disregard, it’s not really considered by most <em>here in the US</em> to be a mere “mistake.” It speaks to your character in our country. And that’s a “mistake” you don’t want to make. </p>
<p>Sorry, I have no advise to offer other than to refrain from piling mistakes upon mistakes. Honesty is the best policy in your next step forward.</p>