Teacher recs may be terrible

<p>Okay, I gave my rec papers to a teacher that I consider a friend.</p>

<p>However, today, a girl--a sweet friend of mine--came up to me and said, "I'm so sick and tired of him (meaning the teacher). Aren't you?"</p>

<p>Of course, I say "no."</p>

<p>She says: "You know, I just have to tell you, because I like you too much not to let you know. He talks bad about you all the time, about how you're snobby and always correcting everything." She went on about his gripes against me and told me not to worry about it but she had to let it off her chest.</p>

<p>So now, I'm feeling pretty low, considering he teaches the subject I am most passionate about, and have been passionate about for three years. Not only that, I go out of my way to make life easier for him, like grading papers, writing tests, organizing the crap out of everything. When things fall through, I patch things up. I even sacrified my summer to help him set up the studio when no one else would.</p>

<p>When I apologize for something, he goes, "you're not sorry." If I'm not sorry, would I try so hard to help? </p>

<p>I don't want him to write bad things about me that aren't necessarily reflections of my character--like how I'm snobby when I'm not--because I signed that privacy thing and he's a very honest (in other words--blunt) guy.</p>

<p>I know I have my flaws, but he's been having a ton of bad days, and I don't want them to ruin my chances. I try to leash in my tongue, but you know, habits die hard.</p>

<p>I would take it lightly, but that man holds grudges. It's gotten to the point where anything, ANYTHING, in the program goes wrong, he blames me, as if I'm supposed to run the school. If I try to make small talk, he barks at me and gets frustrated, because he doesn't have much time to get out.</p>

<p>That's what I get when I'm passionate about a subject I would happily live for.</p>

<p>Is there still time to switch recs? You might have to in this situation. Honestly, I wouldn't trust the guy. As soon as possible, I would go up to him and somehow find a way to ask politely for him to not write recs for you. He might really screw up your chances of getting into any college you're applying to.</p>

<p>Ask him what he plans to write in the recc. If you don't like what he says (or if he doesn't tell you anything), pick another teacher and simply tell him that you have enough recommendations.</p>