Teachers and Students--How Close Is Too Close?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>This is a nice topic because I've noticed many many "crushes" form during the school years on young male teachers at my school. The male students tend to make comments about the young female teachers and comment about how they like them, but they don't actually connect with said teachers. The female students however, always tend to "go after" the male teachers they have eyes for. </p>

<p>Last year, a friend of mine seemed really close with our spanish teacher. They're a perfect fit really. Both are the most sarcastic people in the world and are always too intense for early-morning chats. They bicker like an old married couple and are always challenging each other with mental "battles" that end in stare-offs, and sheepish grins on her part. I accused her of liking him and she brushed it off and said she thinks he's a jerk and would never like him. However she did dream once that the two of them were getting married, but said she has no idea why she had a dream like that. Just the other day, her pop got stuck in the vending machine and she went to him in the lunchroom to get it out. When he did, they had one of their numerous verbal exchanges that resulted in him shaking his head and grinning, and her giggling and doing her misty eyes. I called her out and asked if she'd had any dreams lately: she fell apart and said: "I can't help it, I love him, aggh.....he's my boo!" </p>

<p>That sort of revelation proves that love really is blind. She at least tried to block her liking of him out, but has to admit she does like the guy. I don't think it is something one can help really. You see a teacher five days out of the week, for practically 40 weeks out of the year. Depending on how outgoing you are, you may end up spending a lot of time talking and hearing what they have to say. They're people, not robots like most students take them to be. I think the students who realize this are the ones who easily fall victim to feelings for teachers. It is obvious they're inappropriate to showcase, especially if you are in their classes, but it's not something you can help much. It's really bad when there is a mutual attraction that develops. It shows, even if they try to hide it. Sometimes, all it takes is the grins and the bits of special treatment and the misty eyes, the complements, and especially, the accidental "look." This look is brief and silent. It's when you just got done talking and yet you're still staring at each other with this dumb grin. I speak from experience.</p>

<p>I for one actually fell for a teacher. Not a crush, oh no. Literally, the head-over-heels thing. People could tell too. I got comments because they could tell. He and I shared a lot in common; we shared movies and books and CDs; I actually got him "friendly" Christmas gifts like a Chewie tree ornament (Star Wars freak he is), and a Pooh Bear ornament too. He always told me not to because he said he couldn't give me anything. There were a few exchanges of flirting early on. However, he sadly got himself an ittle girlfriend and supposedly proposed over the summer. I still don't know if it is official. Having a girlfriend never stopped him from doing/saying things that showed he cares about me. Rotten luck I'm going to college next year while his life is already forming. Statistics back me up: 15% of engagements break off and 50% of marriages end in divorce before the five-year mark. In five years I'll have graduated from college. I'd like to return only to find him free and with open arms. Sorry--I sound crazy, I know, but honestly, we seriously got that close. Here's a littel proof- before he had the girlfriend, I had given him a free movie ticket (I work at a theater) but he didn't want to go to a movie alone. I was joking when I asked if he wanted me to see it with him, as though he needed a babysitter, but he took it for real. He sort of agreed to it, albeit for only five minutes, but still, he and I were making plans to see a movie (R-rated "Girl Next Door" too) but then he was like, "oh great, it's rated R" and he started questioning if it would be appropriate? Then his morals clicked in and he was suddenly like, "I can't do that." Later on, I was giving him another free ticket and he, again, considered seeing Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban with me (I was going to a screening for employees only) until I said he can't see employee screenings. He settled on Troy, but came at the wrong time and ended up not seeing it: He lives for Post-It notes and didn't have one made for that night. </p>

<p>Either way, I got really close with a teacher and I have a friend who is trying like crazy to not get attached to one. If anybody would like to share their experiences, they're worth hearing because this is always and interesting topic of discussion.</p>

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<p>my language teacher is hot
althought im male, i can tell he's hot
im straight btw
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<p>Any kind of romantic relationship between a student and teacher is always improper and could get the teacher fired. If you are under 18 it could get him arrested.</p>

<p>I strongly urge you try to confine your attentions to boys close to your own age. Messing with a teacher is nothing but trouble - for both of you.</p>

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<p>mate, that's more sketch than you'd find in an drawing and design class.</p>

<p>;)</p>

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<p>My P.E teacher is hot. But I have no lovey dovey feelings for him.. He's just hot and I like to look at him.</p>

<p>If the teacher is like 20, I guess it's a realistic sittuation.
but if the teacher is like 25+, it's just strange.</p>

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<p>That's definitely what most people would consider too close. If you're 18 and he isn't currently teaching a class you're taking/won't be teaching you in the foreseeable future, then I wouldn't disapprove (of you, maybe a little of him), but it's still a liiiittle sketchy.</p>

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<p>I was listening to this man talk about his students.</p>

<p>He talked about how... tintallating it is when you have a 15, 16 year old who's got the hotts for you. </p>

<p>Not that he condones actually doing things with the kid. Its just a scintillating thought. That they want you. </p>

<p>Then when he/she comes of age, they come for you.</p>

<p>Anyway, you're not supposed to have relationships like that with your teachers. highschool Girls falling for 20+ is not unusual. Atleast they're falling for a 20+ guy with a job and a head on his shoulders (you won't believe how many "but he only smokes some of the times" or "He only did it once or twice" or "he'll get up there"). I believe they pose as a father figure.</p>

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<p>I've been close to teachers, but it's more like an older/wise/mentor to student type relationship, if you know what I mean. I would never ever want to get involved romantically with a teacher. That's just asking for WAY too much trouble.</p>

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<p>love is blind</p>

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<p>"My P.E teacher is hot. But I have no lovey dovey feelings for him.. He's just hot and I like to look at him."</p>

<p>i love looking at some of my teachers........................... lol so hot. i used to really really like one, but then i realized how dumb i was being, so now i just appreciate his hotness</p>

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<p>Just like in any situation it all depends on the people involved. I have always been "wise beyond my years" as one could put it, allowing me to stand apart from other girls my age. I have no interest in boys my age because all I have seen from them is a tendency toward the rude, crude, and lewd. Not that I am after teachers only; I am simply waiting until people my age grow up. What I like about guys is not present in anybody my age. It just so happens that older men have what I like; it's a coincidence that the perfect one happened to be my teacher. But is that really so bad? For there to be a mutual attraction? What I am posing is that it is not so odd when both involved are attracted for normal, decent reasons. It is absolutely wrong and disturbing when there is abuse of power and authority. But when all you have is two people who accidentally find they "belong together," is that so bad? It just so happened that the particular teacher I had feelings for, was the type of person I could be best friends with; he and I were so much alike and would have been a perfect fit I think. You can't judge him for showing a response to my liking of him. Sadly, he met someone (though my bitterness hopes they break up) and that was the end of what might have been with him. He is not nothing more than a mentor/friend type person (my Yoda, becuase we're Star Wars dorks). I have to say I miss who he used to be; his "transition" was certainly not the best thing since sliced bread, I'll tell you.</p>

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<p>love is blind but your relationship better be in 20/20 vision!</p>

<p>I still say student-teacher relationships should not happen.</p>

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<p>Mwbashful you are borderline psychotic. You cant possibly be hoping for your crush teacher to break up with his fiance. That is a horrible thought and completely selfish and illogical on your part. Five years from now you will not only be more mature(and hopefully sane by then), but he will be totally out of your life and probably trying to have a good life. It is sick to have relationships with teachers and even attempting to put him in a situation to act on any lu****l feelings he may have for you is irresponsible on your part. Get a life and move on to college - there are plenty of age appropriate men there. </p>

<p>I cant see how someone can go on a message board and devote a whole post to acceptance of student teacher romance in high school.</p>

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<p>I don't want to come off as cocky, but teachers have commented on my attractiveness (or lack there of if they were joking).</p>

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<li><p>I was talking with my physics teacher (back in 11th grade) about my grades, because they were so close to an A, I was fortunate to have it bumped up to an A for the marking period. I asked my teacher why, and this was the response I got: "Maybe it's because you're so good-looking" and it was the strangest thing, because our eyes met for a good few seconds; that, of course, until I made a little bit of an awkward face and said "Thank you.." The strange thing is.. I'm male and so is he (he's almost 50... although I've gotta tell you.. we would make a helluva couple.. just kidding).</p></li>
<li><p>Because I'm one of the biggest suck-ups I know (and apparently my teachers like it), the female teachers that I've had (and I have not had many) always give that feeling that they want yme.. bad. Maybe they aren't getting enough in the ol' bedroom or they're just sexually frustrated.. only God knows. But, what I can tell you is this: everytime our eyes meet for several seconds, they are on the brink of licking their lips and mouthing the words, "I want you". Can I help this?</p></li>
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<p>By the way, don't take my post too seriously (I will not be falling in love with any teachers any time soon), but any comments on it would be fun to read!</p>

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<p>I think some of you tend to come off as overestimating yourself. I highly doubt many of your teachers want to rush into bed with you. If so, they have serious issues.</p>

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<p>lol that was fun to read, but questionable</p>

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<p>I've seen a lot of my teachers as father figures, I couldn't really imagine having a crush on them. The again, all of my male teachers have been 45 +</p>

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<p>I think we often fantasize about it; chances are, teachers do too.</p>

<p>However, it is not enough to instigate any type of action.. sadly..</p>

<p>The anecdote between my physics teacher and me is completely true.</p>

<p>Also, I think one of the Spanish teachers at my school (not mine, but he was a sponsor for a volunteer projected I did) has the hots for me. He's openly gay (but he doesn't wear rainbow clothes or anything.. he's just gay), and he's been touching me more than normal. Should I be scared?</p>

<p>P.S.- I am not gay, but these questionable experiences seem to keep happening. Do gay people know something about me that I have yet to find out? Again, should I be scared?</p>

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<p>By the way, my American Studies teacher from 11th grade was clearly horny for the girls in my class. He would not stop touching, flirting, etc. He would literally stop class to listen to girls' stories, etc. I'm sure he'd tried to molest any of them at the first chance he gets. I'm sure he had the hots for me too.. whatever.</p>

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<p>There are a lot of sketchy teachers at my school. My Morality teacher went to jail because of pedophilia. Supposedly he was "saved" while in jail or whatever, but he's still not allowed to be alone with a student and his classroom door has to be open during his classes.</p>

<p>My freshman Biology teacher seems to be a bit of a perv too. I know he's mentioned that female students were hot before. I've heard a lot of stories about him before. I don't know how true they were. Then one time he asked to probe me. So yeah.</p>