<p>Do you tell your roommate your leaving way in advance (as in now) when you are gonna be living with him for another 2 months?</p>
<p>My roommate is a high school friend. We had always been planning on rooming, which is why im kinda iffy about telling him. He will probably be upset since im really his only friend here.</p>
<p>We also got emails about housing for next year and he was talking about our options (aka rooming together)</p>
<p>Nothing is set completely in stone yet, so im not sure what the best way to approach this is.</p>
<p>Yes, you should tell him now so he can figure something else out. He’ll be more upset if you back out at the last minute and he doesn’t have time to find another roommate.</p>
<p>I know i need to tell him soon, even though it isn’t definite. I just really don’t know how. If he was a random roommate it would be one thing. But we were friends in highschool and im his only friend here at college. I know it will be good for him for me to leave, but im afraid of the initial reaction.</p>
<p>I think you should tell him that you are seriously considering transferring to another school. It will not be easy and he will take it kinda hard but just come out and tell him. Tell him the reasons. </p>
<p>Maybe you can help him branch out. Introduce him to people that you think he will get along with. Try and help me make additional friends.</p>
<p>Two good friends ended their friendship over a situation like this, only the girl was only going to switch to a room down the hall between semesters. The girl moving waited until Thanksgiving week (our classes end December 10th) and told her roommate while she was on her way out the door that she was leaving. What made it worse was that she never gave her a reason why, and there was never any warning that she was unhappy in their rooming situation. (I roomed with the girl who got left the year before, she was not the easiest person to live with, but she was the type of person to try to fix something if you mentioned it)
This semester they are no longer friends even though the girl who was left did reach out to try to repair friendships between me and her and some of our other friends (She had drifted away because of her boyfriend). </p>
<p>What I’m saying is tell him soon. Give him solid reasons why you’re transferring, maybe help him find another roommate by introducing him to friends you think he would like.
(Or if you know a group in need of a person.)</p>
<p>I definitely don’t want to tell him as i walk out the door. I do have good reasons for transferring, the biggest is that theres only 2 schools in the state that carry the program i want. </p>
<p>The problem is, he is extremely hard headed and once he thinks something is right, nothing will change his mind. He won’t understand why i can’t accomplish the same goals at the school we are at now. He is under the impression that i can get a degree in the broad field, then go to grad school for the specific field (meteorology)… which isn’t the case…</p>
<p>I’ll think of something, this just kinda sucks though.</p>
<p>If that is the case, then you shouldn’t feel the need to explain yourself any further. Tell him soon, as in now and then tell him the reasons. If he’s too hard headed to respect your decision/thoughts then leave it the way it is. He’ll understand someday and if he doesn’t… do you really need that type of friend?</p>
<p>Tell him now so he can find a different roommate. It sounds like you will most likely transfer if accepted, so he will need the time to find someone else. </p>
<p>It is really rude to not tell them. I had two roommates do this to me (one was alright- we were random anyway but I was kind of annoyed because I found this out an hour after we met and discussed the room). The other did this and lied to the RA, RD and ResLife office by saying I had no preference for a new roommate and that I was fully aware. I didn’t know she was moving until she started taking all her stuff out of the room. And when I emailed the RD asking why I never received a form asking for a roommate preference, he said he thought I knew and didn’t want to pick a roommate. It was really rude and rather immature. </p>
<p>personally, i would tell him, but tell him nicely because he is likely to be disappointed. plus i’ve heard its better not to room with someone you knew in high school, almost everybody i know who roomed with their friends now hate each other.</p>
<p>I’m visiting the school over my spring break next week. We will probably have a good idea if I’m transferring after that, so my mom thinks I should wait until I come back from break. We will still have lots of time left in the semester.</p>
<p>^ Lots of time left in the semester, but generally housing isn’t picked at the end of the semester, it’s picked in the middle. At my school you have to have your roommate and turn in your housing application by late March.</p>