I thought I had tried to explain this in a long post, but it’s gone. I’m referring how the multi-year, ethically ambiguous, data-driven media campaigns which attempt to manipulate young, impressionable students into falling in love with the schools, and the careful and implicit efforts to create the false impression that the college will equally love the student back. I’m also referring to the ever increasing levels of commitment these colleges expect from the students through demonstrating interest, following on social media, opening the emails and liking posts, participating on the various seminars, visiting the campus, researching and writing "why XU?” essays, etc, followed by the “if you really love me, prove it, or you may miss your chance!” proposition of ED, EDII, LOCI’s, etc. And all the while the colleges are committing nothing in return. In short, while the intensity of the marketing varies from school to school, the top schools (including Ivy’s) are cultivating a level of emotional commitment that they know will go unrequited for almost all the students. While the intentions of he schools may be understandable or even laudable, the impact on the kids and families seems somewhat predatory.
Regarding my use of the phrase “almost cultish,” I wasn’t comparing Tufts or Cornell to the Manson family. Rather, I was referring to
- the fanatical cultural devotion that regarding the supposed superiority and desirability of top schools, especially Ivy’s;
- the extreme lengths many will go to to try to gain access to these schools, especially Ivy’s; and
- how the schools and the culture further fosters such devotion.
Hope this helps.
I think if varies by school and situation, and the Ivy’s may not be the worst offenders, but in my experience at least some of Ivy’s are engaged in multi-year, focused and personalized marketing efforts as described above. And a number of Ivy’s offer ED or (to a lesser extend) SCEA, thus looking for a potentially unrequited level of commitment from the students. And while most may claim they aren’t looking at “demonstrated interest,” their application essay prompts suggest otherwise. I understand their goals, and don’t believe they are intending to unfairly manipulate students, but oftentimes that’s the outcome nonetheless.
Also with regard to the Ivy’s and other top schools, they may not have to work as hard to get foster the level of emotional commitment to which I refer. Their institutional reputations, parents, peers, and popular culture does their marketing for them, thus the fanatical levels of devotion to these schools among families and potential applicants. It is a potentially unhealthy atmosphere, and very hard on some kids.
While you and your kids my be sophisticated enough to see through this stuff, not everyone is, thus the constant clamoring by families to position themselves and their children to attend these institutions, whether whether or not it is feasible or even makes sense.