<p>I do worry about how C may feel if C doesn’t get accepted at DH’s school. Kids in his school began to talk about college in 3rd and 4th grade. That is when he began asking about our undergrad. experience. DH as I said earlier loved his experience and talked about it with child. This was before we realized how admissions had become so uber-competitive. If we could do it over with the knowledge we have now, we would have done “damage control” from the get go. However, we just did not have the knowledge that we now have (with plenty more to learn). After the battering we got in this year’s prep. school lottery I have begun to fear that DC could very well not make 3rd, 4th 5th, 8th choice…</p>
<p>Someone we know tangentially has a C going to Tufts. I know this sounds crazy but this kid seemed like such a stellar kid, athlete…Tufts just doesn’t seem all that to me. I would have thought this kid was a shoe-in for a much “better” (please don’t slam me 
) school. When DH’s cousin went to Tufts we were somewhat dismissive, this was almost 10 years ago. Kid had gone to a private school, parent to Ivy…This is not meant at all to be dismissive of Tufts which I’m sure is a very fine school, this is just from an outsider looking in with limited knowledge. I would guess though that the DH’s cousin and his C hoped for admit to his legacy IVY. This was our first hint that perhaps the game had changed from way back when DH and I went to school.</p>
<p>Again desire for C to have same benefits we had is not similar to snotty person mentioned earlier in this thread who thinks that if you don’t get into an Ivy you just didn’t cut it…</p>