Did you mean you’d be shopping for a suit in Japan? Or wanting to have it off your mind before the trip?
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Good question. An edit seems to indicate they may want to purchase a suit on the trip to Japan? If so, hopefully son will have more of an idea about suit color before the trip.
DH is in a tizzy as this may or may not be a military wedding. They scrapped having it late fall at West Point after they learned they were moving to Pittsburgh in August, so they moved the wedding up to June (in the Georgia heat!), and FDIL said that groom/smen will be wearing blue suits!!! What? Son was intent on wearing this (and groomsmen are all military):
But said he’d be OK with a suit as a uniform would probably make him feel like he’s at work. DH is dead set on wearing a tux and is having “conversations” with DS about how ill-advised it is for him to miss this chance to wear the Army mess dress, “Think of your pictures, son! You only get one shot at this. What message do you want to send to those above you who’ll be attending this wedding?” 
Is there such a thing as Dadzilla?
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@ChoatieMom , Apparently there is ! 
That’s cool that your son will be in Pittsburgh, my hometown, and where I still visit. Hope he enjoys his time there!
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Hate to say that I agree with your husband. Nothing like pictures in mess dress 
. So handsome.
But of course I understand if your son wanted to not feel like he’s at work.
It’s just so special.
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They will have plenty of times when pics can be taken of him in uniform.
A tux? Why? Even if the other guys were in uniforms…why?
Oh never mind…
We were driving along Sunset Cliffs one day last year and stopped to let a wedding party cross the road. The groom/smen were all in Marine dress blues. They looked magnificent.
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I’ve been getting Baltic Born ads. Has anyone bought from them?
@Marilyn , It’s interesting to hear all the groomsmen are/were fellow military(in your example as well as @ChoatieMom 's). But, I guess that might be fairly common in the military. My son had 8 groomsmen but it was a mixup (3 childhood friends, brother and brother in law, and 3 friends he met once he got to college). Lighter blue suits but they also looked pretty sharp as a group. What happens in a military wedding when some groomsmen are military and others are not? Just curious how that works .
I’ve never been to a wedding where bride or groom were military. I’m sure that’s impressive. Still no word on whether there will be a wedding party for S and fiancée.
I researched them… reviews weren’t good. I passed.
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Non-military groomsmen would wear civilian dress, most likely dark suits, and any military groomsmen would wear the uniform of their respective branches, but it’s really up to the bride and groom what they want their party to wear.
In a truly formal military wedding (where this one is likely to end up), all military participants are in formal dress uniform, and there is a sword ceremony as the couple leaves the church/venue:
Our son really does want the military protocol, and that is what originally dictated me and gram in navy. The bit about a uniform making him feel like he’s at work was a bit tongue in cheek. The wedding will occur less than a month after he makes captain, and he wants to wear the rank. There are very few opportunities to wear formal dress in the Army. Since his commissioning ceremony in 2019 (see my avatar), he has not worn his formal uniform once and has never worn the mess dress (usually, that one is rented). What he wears to his wedding is the one decision that is his, and though he was acting compliant while he was in Qatar, I’m pretty sure he’ll prevail on this now that he’s home and can participate more in the planning, which he couldn’t do while he was away. He’s said as much.
As for DH and the tux, well, he has two and looks for every opportunity to wear them. He can’t imagine not looking like James Bond at his son’s wedding and neither can I.
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Because you all could probably use another smile… here is the giggle-worthy dress in white. Hey, this one could be a bridal gown in a beach wedding 
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My husband is a USNA grad - we married at the Navy chapel while he was still active duty. It was a summer wedding. I actually had to go look at our wedding pictures to remind me who wore what. I thought we had more groomsmen in the military but I was wrong - only his brother was active duty when we married. Two of the others had already gotten out of the Navy so what we did was - H wore his Dinner Dress Whites (I can’t remember why but I didn’t like that uniform - it’s all white). His brother wore Dinner Dress w/Blue Jacket which basically looks most like a black tux w/gold cumberbund. Despite the name the jacket is black, not blue. The rest of the groomsmen wore black tuxes. It was not a black tie wedding tho - guests did not wear tuxes and I can’t recall why the groomsmen did.our fathers also wore them. My bridesmaids wore navy. Pictures of the wedding party look great. We did have a sword arch so H’s active duty friends wore their uniforms and did the arch for us.
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My husband also would prefer to wear a tux if it is an option. If we attend a black tie optional wedding, he opts to wear his tux! As a James Bond fan, maybe that is also his reason! 
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I like the sharp look of men in tuxes. Alas… My husband would not be caught dead in a tux. 
He wore the same dark charcoal suit to both girls’ weddings, ten years apart. He secretly hoped the little kid would have a destination Hawaii wedding so he could wear a nice aloha shirt. Alas again. It was a local affair, and the groom, bridesman, and groomsmen all wore dark suits. I softened the pain of wearing a suit in July for Mr. by buying him a fun tie: a bright, slightly patterned Hermes tie… if you look closely at the pattern, it shows cats chasing mice. Lol.
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I think H only wore a rented tux for our wedding decades ago. My brothers and sone BIL own tuxes but H never bothered. H hasn’t had a suit that has fit him for most of our marriage.
We attended a black tie wedding in Montreal last summer and of course my husband does not have a tux. I did the practical thing by getting him a new black suit, new white shirt and a premade tux bowtie. He fit right in with the men who actually wore tuxes.
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We have never attended a black tie event. Wearing suits or even a jacket/blazer is pretty formal around here.
Most of the weddings we’ve attended are formal events where the men are expected in suits. The Montreal wedding was the first one that said black tie, without the word optional. It was my husband’s niece and her groom, both big law associates who decided to give themselves a lavish wedding after waiting out the pandemic.
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