<p>I was looking through the various lists of colleges daughter has checked out, and now that she has settled on a final list, I would like to mourn the following which, for one reason or another, were removed from the list:</p>
<p>Williams
Centre
Sewanee
Colgate
Whitman
Lawrence</p>
<p>Anyone else have colleges to mourn?</p>
<p>Bowdoin.</p>
<p>I still regret not applying.</p>
<p>Yep. This was my point of my post a while back talking about hearing doors closing. The sound will be deafening December 1st.</p>
<p>Emory
Princeton
Dartmouth
Williams
Barnard
Smith
Mt. Holyoke
Bryn Mawr
Agnes Scott
William and Mary
Kenyon</p>
<p>but most of all, the school that I am 98.44% certain would have been the right one if she had given it a fair shot-Grinnell. I still think about the way the campus looked framed through the archway, bathed in first light, and blanketed with new snow. </p>
<p>But hey - I'm over it. <em>sniff</em></p>
<p>Gosh. What a great list of schools we have here already. (And I could have kept going.)</p>
<p>Well, I sometimes think S would have enjoyed one of the several schools he did not apply to, even though he is really happy where he is. But you can attend only one school at a time, after all!</p>
<p>Just think of all the app fees you are saving as your kids do not apply!, Curm, in particular, 11 colleges, at $60 each, hmmm....</p>
<p>I am mourning the loss of Williams, Emory and Colgate. S gave me the joyful (not) news last night that his school counselor said all applications due January 1 or sooner have to be in their hands on TUESDAY. He was planning to wait for his ED decision and THEN frantically get some more applications done. I can see his very quick and devious mind working to figure out how this rule does not apply to him.....</p>
<p>marite, it could have easily been eleven-ty seven ;). I am a fan of so many schools.</p>
<p>Ack! Cur, say she didn't give up on Williams! That's where I'd placed my bet in the mudgerella pool...</p>
<p>Marite is right- you can only attend one, which is the down side of having the admissions PTB say you're in at a number of schools that you love. For D, there was something special about all of them and it was a hard choice for her to make and she had a few tearful moments.</p>
<p>Yes, even though D loves her current school, I still mourn the loss of Williams also (from the mom that cried as she dropped the card in the mailbox stating that D would not be attending).</p>
<p>Yeah Curm and MOWC, I wanted to say hey, I have a friend whose kid is attending Williams. Now I have to hold out for my other friends.</p>
<p>I really can't see how anyone could NOT mourn the loss of Williams. Even my son mourns it, but it simply is not big enough or urban enough for him. It has the greatest coach in his sport and everything about it is wonderful. He tried hard to figure out how it could work for him, but the bottom line was that it would be a good one year school and he needed to look towards spending 4 years somewhere. As for Emory, I think it is a mistake on his part. He just is overwhelmed with all the schools out there and can't focus on any more. I really think it would be a good fit for him.<br>
One school I had buried prematurely is Cornell. The coach cooled off, and it certainly isn't urban. It slipped down the list. S and a classmate visited last weekend to hear a lecture and had a great time and loved the place. S is going to get the application ready (not by Tuesday, though) in case the ED doesn't come through. Then he will work on the coach......</p>
<p>Boston College
University of Maryland - Baltimore County (which has a wonderful honors program that sounded almost perfect for S)
Grinnell
Brown (S loves the school, but his gpa is way too low for admission)
Emory (S missed the Scholars deadline, and he'd need merit aid to afford to go there)</p>
<p>Lawrence (we never visited because my daughter couldn't/wouldn't get past the fact that it's in Wisconsin)</p>
<p>College of Wooster (went this summer to a performance of the Ohio Light Opera Company, and I loved the campus; my daughter already had an Ohio school on her list and one was enough)</p>
<p>Case (a drive-by was all it took for it to come off her list :( )</p>
<p>Chapman (my daughter wants to be out of the midwest, so I thought this would be a keeper..."too far from home" was her response)</p>
<p>Whitman- didn't like the name or location</p>
<p>Smith- didn't want a womens college or one on the east coast</p>
<p>Carleton- didn't want one that was so rural</p>
<p>Evergreen- was the 1st choice for years- had merit aid as well as some innovative programs- but when top choice came through with aid- evergreen couldn't compete</p>
<p>"I really can't see how anyone could NOT mourn the loss of Williams. "</p>
<p>We didn't mourn the loss one bit (and I'm an alum). We visited three times, hoping each time it would be better (for her) than it was, she was recruited, they gave her a huge financial aid award, and it was one of the easiest decisions we/she ever made.</p>
<p>We both deeply regretted Earlham, but it just didn't have what she needed.</p>
<p>In contrast to the kids here who are looking for "academic rigor", my daughter was turned off by schools where she felt the students study too much. So that eliminated Princeton, Swarthmore & UChicago. Another no-no was "all girls schools". I think Wellesley would have been a great fit for her, but she wouldn't even visit the campus when we were in Boston. Tufts was also eliminated because her cousin just graduated there ("I don't want to be a copycat"). Overall, though, I'm pleased with the ones she did apply to-hopefully she'll get in to at least one of them!</p>
<p>I am still grieving over Wellesley. Wouldn't, under any condition whatsoever, consider an all female school. I loved the campus, I loved the Dean of Admissions who sat with all of us in a circle and made us feel like family, and I loved the science center. She did not. Also am mourning Stanford and Duke. I visited Duke in the autumn when I interviewed for a fellowship many years ago...and went running amidst the gorgeous trees changing color on a bright morning. Ahhhhhh. But she won't go west of the Rockies or south of the Mason-Dixon line. Sigh.</p>
<p>I think there are a lot of young women who aren't considering womens colleges regardless of the opportunities there.
Young women nowdays don't think they need to attend a sex segregated school to have opportunities- and that is a good thing- but I think parents who attended school before Title IV have a different perspective.</p>
<p>In researching schools- I ran across many that were just so intriquing. Earlham and Warren Wilson for example- if I was 30 years younger!.................</p>
<p>Colleges removed from the list?</p>
<p>Brown
Columbia
Cornell
Dartmouth
Harvard
Penn
Princeton
Yale</p>
<p>alas..... and S is only a junior. But he can only attend one college (at a time) anyway. I don't like the idea of collecting trophies (acceptance letters).</p>
<p>The only one I am sad about is Rhodes. I totally agree with DD that she should have removed it from the list, but I am so disappointed that it wasn't everything she had hoped it would be. After getting her most recent ACT score of 33, DH and I told her that would probably open a few more doors and encouraged her to consider other schools, if interested. She's thrilled with the two to which she has applied, Centre and Hendrix, and said she had no desire to apply anywhere else. Should she be accepted to both, she'll have a tough decision to make.</p>
<p>Choosing not to apply is one thing - an even sharper mourning comes from applying, getting accepted, and then choosing another school.</p>
<p>D herself is very happy at her school, but at the time she mourned having to turn down MIT. I think W still mourns that D did not choose Pomona.</p>
<p>My brother still mourns for colleges that three of his kids turned down:
D1 turned down UCLA, D2 turned down UCSD, and S turned down Stanford.</p>