<p>I respect all of the thought and care that every one of these kids puts into making their decisions.</p>
<p>I don’t want to start a debate, and I know I can’t help sounding a lot like a mommy here, but I do want to say something in response to the discussion coming from emkolb’s posts. </p>
<p>I am impressed with all of the talking and reading you are doing in your search for a school. I wish you all the best. But I would like to ask you to adjust how you are thinking, or at least how you are expressing yourself. Please see more of what you are doing as a personal choice, not as some kind of definable right or wrong choice. If I am making a mistake in considering you to be too dogmatic, then I apologize. But I’m sensing others are having the same reaction, based on the comments you are receiving. I think many of us will feel better if you express your opinions more subjectively, rather than as if you have been told the “right” thing to do, and it will be easier to have a conversation here, with people sharing their various thoughts and perspectives, instead of your feeling like you’re having to defend yourself and the “rightness” of your choices.</p>
<p>I am no theater expert, nor an expert in much of anything at all. I am a social worker, and I have also had a long career in the arts. I couldn’t tell you if a BA or a BFA will do any more or less for anyone. But I do feel deeply that you are entitled to pursue what feels right for you, just as everyone else should pursue what feels right for them. Maybe how anyone finds out what feels right is by doing exactly what you are doing - asking, reading, thinking, comparing. But different people will come up with different answers, and the world has room for all kinds of options.</p>
<p>CC is full of people who are scared to death that they are doing the “wrong” thing, that they won’t be “successful,” and it makes me sad every time I see it. I have been up, down and all around, and I do feel with all of my heart that someone can and should follow the path that makes sense and calls to them personally. To see this choice as trying to find an intrinsically “right” answer is not only unfair to oneself, but unfair to the people who prefer a different answer.</p>
<p>Everyone is entitled to feel a school or a program or a location is not right for them. But let’s not suggest that schools or degrees that aren’t our own preference are inherently inferior. As I said, I’m not accusing anyone of feeling this way, but some of emkolb’s posts are expressing that, whether it is your intention or not.</p>
<p>I say this particularly on this thread, because it is for everyone who is coming up as a senior, and we will have (I hope) all kinds of kids with all kinds of tastes, plans, dreams, experiences, and there’s so much we can learn from each other, and so many ways we can support each other. If we succeed in being welcoming and open-minded, that will be a huge accomplishment.</p>
<p>The parents here have been truly wonderful, helpful, sharing and supportive. I am grateful to this forum already.</p>