<p>I would add just a few items to Zaphod's advice, our "15 tidbits of advice" we shared with our own son as he approached this stage of the process:</p>
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<li><p>Arrive early. Early is on-time; on-time is late. If you are unsure where the office location is, take a dry run a few days ahead of time so that you are not adding this extra stress on the actual day of your interview. Being lost or unsure of where you are going when it counts is no fun, so save yourself the grief. And while you are waiting in the waiting room for your interview, strike up a casual conversation with the other candidates waiting along with you. It will break the ice, get you "warmed up and talking," and will help to get you relaxed instead of sitting their with your heart racing in your chest. Talk about sports- anything- but talk. </p></li>
<li><p>Introduce yourself to everyone on the panel- shake their hand, say "Hello, I am so-and-so....nice to meet you....it's my pleasure to meet you...." etc....make good eye contact with each member of the panel as you do this. If you can get their names (and remember them) so much the better. YOU GET ONE CHANCE TO MAKE A FIRST IMPRESSION - MAKE IT COUNT. Practice your greeting ahead of time. Shake some hands. Make sure you have a "good and solid" handshake... firm, but not hand-crunching or even worse, limp and wimpy. Girls- make sure you practice this with your Dad's. Practice putting your hand out FIRST...you would be amazed how that equates to how you are perceived..."confident, self-assured, grounded"....all from a handshake!!! Practice to make yours excellent!!!!</p></li>
<li><p>Sit up straight (but not stiff) in your chair. Plant your feet on the floor in front of you. Don't figit. Don't cross your legs, your ankles, your fingers, your eyes, or anything else you can possible cross. You DO NOT have to sit on the edge of your chair...by all means, get comfortable. But make sure you are squared away...shoulders straight, hands crossed on your lap, feet together on floor. Smile. Smile. Smile. Make your eyes light up. </p></li>
<li><p>Dress neat. If you don't have a suit, don't worry.... a nice pair of dress kacki-colored pants, a navy jacket, tie, belt, shirt and POLISHED shoes will do fine. No sneakers. No denim. NO GUM CHEWING. No exceptions.</p></li>
<li><p>Answer all questions as honestly as possible. Wait until the question is fully asked. If you don't understand the question, ask the person asking it to clarify or restate the question- often times it gets asked in a simpler, more direct format the second time around. If you need it, ask for a minute to think about your response before answering. If you don't have a clue as to how to respond, say something to the effect that you "need to think about that for awhile before you can offer your response," or "I am not familiar with that, sir, but I will be sure to look it up...research it...find out...now that you have asked." They know you don't know everything, so don't pretend that you do. Don't tell them you want to be in the Navy for 25 years as your life's work when you have trouble figuring out what you want to eat for dinner on any given night. A better response is that "Right now I have an interest in......... " and then state your interest. Make sure it is something they actually DO in the Navy. Be honest. Smile. Keep eye contact- with everyone. Remember, the eyes are the windows to the soul- and if ever you wanted someone to know what is in yours, now is the time.</p></li>
<li><p>Don't oversell, over-inflate, or over-state yourself. You are who you are. Take pride in what you have accomplished to date, but claim ONLY what is yours to claim. Keep this in mind. You want the academy to want YOU....who YOU are....not some over-inflated, over-stated, unrealistic ideologic version of "you"....but YOU...the genuine article. If you are a good fit, they will conclude that. Just remember- these panels interview kids year in and year out. They have heard all the answers, excuses, concocted stories and answers formulated by well-meaning parents. This is NOT what you want to portray. You need to stand for who YOU are. YOUR thoughts. YOUR dreams and aspirations. What floats YOUR boat...not mom or dad's. HONEST HONEST HONEST HONEST HONEST HONEST.... no exceptions, no deviations, no joke. Anything short of that can sink your boat before it ever leaves the dock.</p></li>
<li><p>Make sure you go in with clear points as to what is essential to come across. You do not have to restate your accomplishments from high school....all of that will be in the folder they already have on you. Be prepared to substantiate what is in there. If you only got a 1200 on your SATs and they ask you "why did you only have a 1200 on your SATs" be prepared to give them a reason. </p></li>
<li><p>Know EXACTLY WHY you want to attend the USNA, or any academy for that matter. That is the number one question, and the one they will query the most. Make sure YOU understand your motivation, and then make sure they understand. </p></li>
<li><p>Practice moc interview questions. NO JOKE. Interview with people that you don't know well. A neighbor. A parent's co-worker. A teacher. Most kids won't bother with this step, but practice makes perfect, so take advantage of the advantage this will offer you. Have someone critique how you did- the questions you hestiated on- the answers that were incomplete, vague or plain stupid. You will be amazed at how much this will help you when the real interview comes around.</p></li>
<li><p>Clarify. After giving a response, ask the person if you have answered their question to their satisfaction. "Ma'am, does that answer your question, or should I continue".... If your response is a long one, ask them "should I continue".... they may already have gotten the information they need. Often time it is not the "answer" they are seeking necessarily.....but HOW you handle a difficult question/situation, etc. What was your biggest accomplishment to date? Your biggest failure? With both, be sure you can articulate what you LEARNED from the experience- that will speak volumes, so give these questions some thought before you get there. </p></li>
<li><p>Be prepared with questions of your own. Don't ask questions that you should already know the answers to had you done your homework on the academies ahead of time. "Sir, what is the best advice you could offer me... at this time....to survive the academy....to become the best leader i can..."...just a suggestion should you not have good questions of your own. Go in with several if you need to.</p></li>
<li><p>At the end of the interview, you should be doing a mental inventory in your head, checking to see if you have gotten the points you need to get across across. How do you know this? Because you would have made a list of the essential points to be covered before your interview, you would have practiced how to "work them in" to your answers during your practice interviews, etc. At this time, if you have not gotten a particular item across based on the questions you were asked, now is the time to do so. "sir, I would like to add one additional comment for your consideration......" </p></li>
<li><p>At the conclusion, shake everyone's hands- AGAIN. Thank them for their time and interest. "Sir, thank you for your time today"...."Maam, thank you for your interest".... good eye contact....THIS IS YOUR LAST IMPRESSION - MAKE IT A GOOD ONE. Again, practice-practic-practice. On eveyone, everywhere. Next time you go shopping, thank the sales person for their help and shake their hand. Silly???? hardly. Practicing with strangers is a terrific exercise in getting yourself comfortable, so take advantage of the situations available to you.</p></li>
<li><p>Follow up. That means a thankyou note to your MOC and his/her panel for taking the time to meet with you. Plain stationary is fine. No flowers, perfume, etc on the paper. Just a genuine "thank you for your time and consideration."</p></li>
<li><p>Go home and relax. If you have prepared well, practiced, and presented who you are, then you have done the best you can do. The rest will be determined, and it is out of your control at this point. All the worrying, second-guessing, coulda-shoulda-woulda's aren't worth your time and energy, so forgetaboutit. Get back into your studies- you still have the rest of senior year to complete, and grades are important up to that very last quiz/test/paper/final in June. Don't mess up with the finish line in front of you.</p></li>
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<p>The last tidbit is for parents. Parents, please give your candidate few minutes to catch their breath in the car on the ride home. Let the information as to "how did things go" flow from them. Now is not the time to have them recite back every question and every word of their answers to you. It is done. What will be will be. It is no more in your control as it is in your kid's. Don't be a monday-morning-quarterback. Instead, do something that will benefit your candidate- stop for a drink on the way home (they have been talking for awhile and no doubt would welcome something wet). Give them space. Congratulate them on getting another part of the process behind them. </p>
<p>Best of luck to everyone. Be yourself. If you have what the academy wants/needs/desires, trust that they will find you. The system does work. Have faith. Remember, they are already interested in you, otherwise you would not be getting this opportunity to begin with. Carpe diem!</p>