<p>My middle child was the grinning kid on the school playground with a sneaker on one foot and a muddy sock on the other and no jacket. He is still some version of that kid now at 21 and in his junior year. So far, no disasters have befallen him, although he lost many things along the way, and he loses deadlines in the same way that he loses shoes, so his grades could be better (but they could be worse and they're not, so it's all good). </p>
<p>One thing he has figured out for himself and then finally taught us is that for him, the magic word is KISS...as in: Keep It Simple, Stupid! </p>
<p>The more stuff they bring, the more there is to lose and the more clutter there is, making things that much harder to find and easier to lose. </p>
<p>So he no longer goes off to school in September with a car packed to the ceiling with every single thing we think he might need. Somehow, he lives without things things that I find indispensable, like staplers, alarm clocks, (he uses his cell phone alarm), printers...Forget changing the printer cartridge, he doesn't take a printer to school, says there are printers at school and most of his stuff can be emailed to profs anyway. He doesn't use iPods or electronic organizers, he doesn't use a laptop or tweezers or shoe polish, he doesn't take XBoxes or Gameboys to college with him, he doesn't use White Out or Scotch tape or a Mr. Coffee, or wash cloths. He will wash his hair with bar soap when he runs out of shampoo. </p>
<p>Whatever lovely matching set of washcloths, hand and bath towels you send him with, he will come home with one dirty beach towel that you never saw before. </p>
<p>He likes to buy all the exact same color and brand of sock so he doesn't have to look for mates--since they're all identical. </p>
<p>These kids also tend to not recognize their own stuff. They'll come home wearing somebody else's jeans and when you ask, they'll say it's okay, the other guy has theirs. </p>
<p>Since the freshman dorm had a linoleum floor, we bought our son a nice area rug to match the sheets that he never opened and the comforter that he never washed. The area rug was eaten by gremlins.</p>
<p>Forget two sets of sheets. Yeah, I know, the second set goes on when the first set goes into the laundry. Yeah, right. LOL. They will sleep on the same set of sheets all year without washing them. Or, if they do eventually wash the sheets, they'll just leave the bed naked until the sheets are dry and then put them straight back on the bed without folding first which works too. Pillowcases, however, are hit or miss. They may never find their way back onto the pillows. </p>
<p>Any toiletries beyond the absolute basics will be eaten by gremlins. </p>
<p>We gave him a camera his first year to record his college memories (a relatively inexpensive, second-hand camera, figuring he might lose it). He seemed happy to have it but we never saw any pictures. A year or so later after we gave his older brother a camera for his birthday, this guy had the nerve to say that he wished he had a camera. When we told him that he did have a camera, it was all news to him. Who knows where it is, he sure doesn't. </p>
<p>They do learn to keep track of the important things. They don't have any choice because their roommates for some reason just don't seem to have a lot of interest in tracking down their missing stuff for them and they won't buy them replacements for the things they lose. So if it's something they can easily live without if they lost it, leave it home. It does get better--very, very slowly.</p>