<p>I am a rising sophomore in college. I had an amazing freshman year and made a lot of friends, both in greek and out of greek. The people in greek seem to have much closer friendships..and two of my friends from hs are in a frat at school. I am living with one of the brothers next year in an apartment with two other non greek friends. I am all for rushing for the right reasons, to make connections to meet people/women to have fun and develop the sense of comraderie and sports and service. I do like to party, but not crazy, I like going for the social scene and to talk to people, i do drink but only socially. The frat is one of the tamest ones on campus, but I am concerned of losing touch with some of my none greek friends, and them resenting me for being in a frat. I told them it would change nothing, because nothing is worth losing friendships over, its just i have seen others in different frats completely change once they join and become dbags, and i completely dont want that to happen. I like alot of the brothers in that frat, and two of them i have known since high school and they have been pursuading me since February to rush. I think i will try it, but will drop it if they want me to change and make bad bad decisions..thoughts?</p>
<p>sounds like a good plan, the house can only change you as much as you let it (for the good or the bad)</p>
<p>I would go ahead.
3 close friendships are ten times more worthwhile than 15 regular friendships.</p>
<p>You sound like you have thought it through - just keep your word and don’t turn into the stereotype, and you’ll get the best of both worlds!</p>
<p>True frat stars never doubt their destiny, not even for a second. If you have to ask, you’ve already lost.</p>
<p>Particularly after joining as a sophomore, you just won’t be able to frat as hard as your brothers. You may still enjoy yourself and get in some quality fratting, but you’ll never be a true champion.</p>
<p>frat hard and frat often. Just make sure you really look at your options and find the house that suites you the most</p>
<p>be a free thinker!</p>
<p>Any friendship that get jeopardized by the fact that you have closer friends is one worth losing.</p>
<p>I’m in a fraternity and a rising senior. I pledged as a soph first semester. Do it, you won’t regret it. My resume is stacked with all the connections I got through the fraternity, I made some of my best friends, and it’s just a lot of fun.</p>
<p>It all depend on what you personally wants. Frats can form strong bonds between brothers, they provide a great social/party point, and they are nowadays more focused academically than social-wise. The cons is that they do take up some of your time, can be intimidating during pledge period, some frats in certain schools can take socialization more than academics, and you can only live with the same sex.</p>
<p>If you want any chance at rush then stop saying “frat”. Hearing non greeks say that makes any member cringe</p>
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<p>So your resume is stacked, yet you’re considering a fifth year? Something makes me doubt the quality of your “connections”. Hopefully they’ll hook you up with a sick line cook position at your local burger king this summer.</p>
<p>You definitely are an angry person. Going into your 5th year doesn’t mean you don’t have connections.</p>
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He’s thinking about doing a 5th year so he can get into a business related field. I think it’s pretty safe to say that there would be no need if his connections were truly great.</p>
<p>Have you thought that they may want a degree?</p>
<p>Hey man. Dude, Frats are really fun and stuff but you have to be worried about drinking. You wouldn’t think it man but you can really get sucked up into all that stuff. I have had friends in college that messed up there whole GPA’s and got kicked out of college because of frats. Take a look at this article, it talks about how drinking effected this kid and screwed him over. He was a smart guy before that. SO just be weary. </p>
<p>[College</a> and Drinking: An Interview With A Four-Year Student | Begin College](<a href=“http://www.begincollege.com/college-and-drinking-interview-four-year-student/]College”>http://www.begincollege.com/college-and-drinking-interview-four-year-student/)</p>
<p>its some good this, hope this helps you figure out if u wanna frat it up man. Good luck in college</p>
<p>I sent in a good helpful message , but it got deleted…</p>
<p>What got deleted? Your previous post? It’s still there :)</p>
<p>Thanks! And im going to try it, one of my good friends from hs who isnt a party person(less than me) is in it and loves it so if he can do it theres no reason why i cant! Thank you so much guys and girls!</p>