<p>How do you guys deal with people that are nice to you in the face but otherwise talk bad about you behind your back? I know the most obvious answer is to just ignore it, but what if I care about what others really say about me and sometimes others just make me look unlike what I truly am? or is this all a high school thing and will get better once you get into college?</p>
<p>Well, you should laugh it off-make the other person look like the jerk they are, and you come off as classy as possible
For example, freshman year, this girl, let's say Rebecca, and I were on the golf team together as the only in our class.</p>
<p>Like 40 Random Girls: Rebecca says she plays golf a lot better than you and that you don't deserve to be on the team
Me: Oh, it's hard for me to tell who's better after ONE PRACTICE. But I'm sure Rebecca knows what she's talking about.</p>
<p>:) and that sort of behind your back is probably only in hs, in college, you can prob avoid people or confront them without worry</p>
<p>dont hang out with people like that
and you have to realize, they're the types who are always looking for something bad about you to talk about. they cant stand when someones better than them so they search for a fault. no matter how perfect you are they'll find a flaw.
what should matter to you is the opinion of people who truly know you, not what some jealous person is saying</p>
<p>but pretty much theres no way to stop them. they'll gossip no matter what you do. so you have to learn how to handle it.</p>
<p>well, they are not even people I hang out with. They're just people that I talk to at school.</p>
<p>It doesn't bother me at all. This is because I acknowledge that for someone to do that, they must have painfully low self-confidence/a complete unawareness of more fulfilling activities. Insults, gossip, it just doesn't bother me at all.. it hasn't since middle school. If anything, I regard it as a clue to their jealousy.. which isn't exactly flattering, but it's something to be thankful for.. that people are jealous of you, and not the other way around. Being jealous is a lonely thing, so the people who talk a lot must really, really, really be hurting deep down due to some serious inferiorities.</p>
<p>Also, I think reacting to gossip is harmful... and I think it's indicative of a need to prove yourself, which I don't have. Insults are just empty to me.</p>
<p>Never come in contact with them. Hang out with friends who you can trust your bank account to. ( Yeah, theres very few True loyal friends out there)</p>