i posted on here before when I wasn’t sure if I made the right choice, and here I am posting again.
i applied to transfer out of Wash U and into Yale, expecting that the decision would be made for me once I get rejected from Yale, but I got in (and im so happy about it ) and now I am super conflicted.
I had a good freshman year at Wash U and I love my friends and I am excited for my classes for next semester, but I can’t help thinking that there could be something better. The social scene is a bit insular and it feels like everything is very segregated, in academics, socioeconomic status, and social groups and I like having friends from all parts of the “groups” and I feel like I am missing out on that here. I applied to yale EA the first time around senior year and I am not sure if I am just caught in the “grass is greener” mentality that everything will be perfect there. I would be sad to leave my friends and the school, and the transfer transition will definitely be difficult, but I don’t know if this change would be for the better if I went to Yale. I am not sure anyone on here could give me insight into this. especially bc i dont know what i want myself, but any advice would be appreciated.
Bird in hand. You know everything there is that you don’t like about Wash U. You’ll have to discover all of that at Yale, because EVERY school has things to not like. You are risking leaving a situation where you are happy based on FOMO with a real possibility that you might like Yale LESS. Seems risky to me. Personally, I’d be wary.
If you are unhappy at Yale, and decide that you like Wash U better after all, would you be willing to transfer back and consider the Yale year as a kind of “sophomore exchange year”, or would you feel that you had to stick it out at Yale no matter how miserable you were just because it is Yale?
yes, that is my current fear, but I think i will talk to a few people I know at Yale to weigh the issues
I don’t think I would transfer back, just because I feel like I wouldn’t make this decision lightly and I wouldn’t want to go through the entire transfer process again. Right now, the only downside of going to Yale would be that I would have to restart taking a language, and I would have to go through the whole transition to college and settle in all over again and I would miss my friends from Wash U. Other than that, I am having trouble finding reasons for why not