<p>Hi,
This is very hard for me to discuss financial things on a public forum, but after reading all the great responses to other questions here, I have to give it a shot to see if anyone has any advice. We currently have two students in private colleges (and honestly, it works out to be similar to state schools, because the financial aid at the privates is better than the zero aid at the states). One child will be a senior next year, the other a sophomore. We did okay with using saved money and getting student loans to get through the past several years, but this past year we've had to take out equity loans to pay tuition bills, and also the second year took out a significant loan from a wealthy relative and we are paying him back monthly, like a car loan with 5% interest. No, it's not pretty but it gets the job done.</p>
<p>Here's the question: This past Christmas the very generous 'rich uncle' who lives far away, called and asked if he could help out with the kids' semester's tuitions, knowing or hearing that we were having to make difficult choices to pay the bills. We had already paid one of the bills, which had been due in December, but he paid the other child's bill, online through the college's online 'Other Payer' option. We did not know that this kind of thing can help the giver, as paying a relative's tuition can factor into a tax strategy for them. (*that hadn't occurred to us, as we were too blown away by the generous gesture and still are.) </p>
<p>We recently were reviewing our son's financial aid package with the college and meant to ask about this 'gift'/payment and totally forgot. My husband feels we should not accept any more "gifts", as it will probably backfire and reduce the financial aid package our child gets as it is, leaving us in worse shape. </p>
<p>I've read so much on the financial aid guidelines/laws though cannot find out if/how this hurts a student, if a relative does pay a portion of their tuition. The amount was well under $10,000, but we do not have any plan to pay this relative back, as it was a gift to our son. We wondered if he should have just gifted the money to us, but I think they make out better tax-wise by paying the tuition directly to the college.</p>
<p>I think/know it's time for us to sit down with a financial adviser, something we've not been able to put the money into thus far. We don't want to have any false information or shady things happening on our kids' documentation and would never hide assets, etc. We want everything to be above board, so before I write an email to my child's FA office, I wanted to see if anyone here had any suggestions or advice on the matter.</p>
<p>Thanks so much,
CCL</p>