<p>unregistered, cameliasinensis has a great attitude towards her choice - why shouldn't (s)he be in love with it?
Because (and I don't know if you've ever had this experience and can relate), after being deferred/rejected by a school, a person's outlook becomes muuuch more objective. After that initial sting of rejection, you quickly get over your blind reverence of the place and begin to see the multiple things wrong with it that you would never have DARED to think about before. I, for example, used to get very defensive when people would say something negative about my ED school (incidentally, Princeton). It gives you much-needed perspective.</p>
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After that initial sting of rejection, you quickly get over your blind reverence of the place and begin to see the multiple things wrong with it that you would never have DARED to think about before.
Thanks; that's exactly what I meant to say (and yes, I am a "she")-- and since every school has something wrong with it, it's sort of inevitable. I'm sure that Dartmouth has many flaws as well, but I'll enjoy my untainted, idealistic happiness while it lasts. :p</p>
<p>nelle, where did you decide to go?</p>
<p>I think cameliasinensis has a good attitude, too. I also think it is impossible to say that you would never consider attending a school unless they accept you and give you the actual option. If it helps people deal, it isn't a big deal, but it's so pervasive and a bit bizarre to me. I shouldn't have picked on her, because I see lots of people doing it, I know.</p>
<p>camelia- congrats on Dartmouth. I was just curious as I had seen your "chances" thread on princeton, which showed so much committment and love for the school. It's great that you've been able to move on from it and not allow the rejection to ruin your life- although going to Darthmouth is hardly a tragedy ;) I'm impressed you're able to clearly identify the benefits of Dartmouth.</p>
<p>For all those who apply shotgun into 15+ colleges, this is what you reap from what you sowed. Hey, at least you're loved right? I'd love to have to choose between two ivys hahahah.</p>
<p>A question-Is it bad if I didnt formally decline the colleges I chose not to attend? I basically didn't reply to them at all and let them figure it out yesturday. </p>
<p>And I had a very similar experience as cameliasinensis. After being waitlisted at where I had wanted to go I also fell in love with Dartmouth and cant help but wonder if it wasnt the best thing that could have happened to me. </p>
<p>On the other hand, I didnt feel bad at all turning down berk and la. Oops?</p>
<p>Yes, you should have sent in the decline card, it's common courtesy.</p>
<p>It was very tough for me. I turned down the school that had always been my frist choice (Haverford) for Davidson. Haverford gave me no aid, and Davidson gave me tons (both need and merit based, as I won the music scholarship).. when I was visiting Haverford, I bought a t-shirt, and told everyone I was going there... a week later, I was swept off my feet by Davidson and couldn't see how Haverford could ever be worth $25,000 extra a year. It was so hard for me to check the "no" box on that form, but I know that I'll be very happy at Davidson and that I made the right decision.</p>
<p>People in Seattle think I'm crazy though, because nobody has heard of Davidson over here!</p>
<p>I felt pretty bad with a couple of the schools I turned down... especially the one where I had to tell the admission officer over the phone...</p>
<p>I was so sad to reject schools. I filled out about six "no" cards with no problem, but for the other ones, I filled them out and looked at them for an hour and then waited a week to send them. Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm just giving up so much...I know I'll be amazingly happy at Princeton but, nonetheless, I would have been happy anywhere.</p>
<p>I dislike that my twinges of regret momentarily impeded my euphoria about checking 'YES!!' to the college I have wanted to attend for forever.</p>
<p>Felt ****ty right after doing it, but am feeling better already - and I suspect the enthusiasm I'm already feeling will only get more intense as the beginning of the year rolls around. The choice was extremely difficult, but I'll be happy for sure.</p>
<p>I know what you mean. I had actually really looked into my other top choice and grew to really like it. I think my main reasons for not choosing it is the distance from my house and its location/weather. I feel kind of lame about it. I do really like the college that I will be attending, but can't help second guessing and wondering whether I would be happier and/or more successful or get a better education at my other choice.</p>
<p>As for the other schools to which I got accepted, I still felt sort of sad rejecting them, even my ultimate back-up schools. It just feels a little weird knowing that this chapter of my life is over. I even feel nostalgic looking at the colleges' online portal links that I have bookmarked, knowing that I won't be needing to sign into my accounts anymore (I'm a strangely sentimental person).</p>
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<p>"I even feel nostalgic looking at the colleges' online portal links that I have bookmarked, knowing that I won't be needing to sign into my accounts anymore."</p>
<p>LOOOOL - I've enjoyed deleting them from my "favorites" list. :D Hmmm, I wonder when colleges delete our accounts or if they just keep our data forever. It's weird thinking that the Common App might have all the info on millions of college applicants of years past...</p>
<p>My daughter loved Tufts & was really bummed to say goodbye to that dream. She did get in, but it would have involved more debt than a dental-school hopeful (ortho after that) needs. It was tough to say no. There were a couple other schools she liked, too, but she can only attend one. However, she REALLY likes the school she picked, and it's a perfect fit for her. She is more than happy. The only problem is the blank looks she gets when she tells people where she's going to school next year!</p>