@JulianL45 Well actually for all the years I admit yes I was. This year nope. Which is why this year we’re having tons of trouble with him… Because this year he has all this independence choosing what he’s going to be doing whether they are the right choices or not… And we see what has happened as a result. But if you think I’m being a helicopter parent now, you should’ve seen me over the past three years. Because even my son with say this year is absolutely nothing. Plus to be honest I don’t see why what I’ve been posting is any different from what if you other people have been posting and no one is accusing them of being a helicopter parent. Unfortunately not to put a heavy spin on it, but when you as a parent have a terminal illness that you were born with, not knowing for how long you will be here for, you want to make sure that everything is going the way you hope it would for your only child to be happy. So it is probably why through the years I’ve been even more involved in things that he does and overseeing because soon… I won’t be here. Check out what Cystic Fibrosis is.
@andreq honestly that’s why he probably wants to go to the east coast. There’s no excuse to be a helicopter parent even if you stopped now. That means you still were one for 16/17 years…yikes
Read what Cystic Fibrosis is. Then you’ll know why. His therapist gets it. Read what I wrote where I ended with that I have cystic fibrosis. As his therapist has said to me and to my son, it’s why I always have been so involved not knowing for how much longer I will be here for and wanted to make sure everything is set up for him to have the life that would make him the happiest because of things that he talks about. Don’t make judgments if you don’t know what someone else is going through. Do a Google search.
@andreq you literally said in a post a few pages back “Sadly my son and I do not have a good mother son relationship for various reasons and he never in 1 million years would ever sit down with me.” 
I’m not trying to attack you in this thread or anything but that’s commonly what happens when you helicopter parent. Good luck to your son though and I hope you find a way to cope with your illness.
Accepted!!
CSU/UC GPA; 3.6
SAT: 1360
Major: Computer Science
@Andreq I’m not sure why anyone’s giving you a hard time. I’ll fully admit I could be characterized as a helicopter parent but only on this one process. I know more about all of the campuses due to work so I know where my son would fit. My parents were actively disengaged when I applied and they could have cared less where I went or even if I went. I wish my parents had been as involved as you are. At the end of all this my S will not care if he’s rejected at all the rest but I’ll still feel defeated by the fact I wasn’t as educated on the scoring and other processes involved.
@ucplsacceptme Not in this case. As has been told to him and me by his therapist and by other professionals, such as my doctor… What he’s doing is normal. My cousin son did it with her when she was going through breast cancer. Fortunately she survived. But he also started pulling away from her so that he could protect himself should she die. That way he would have already distanced himself. My son is pulling away and has pulled away from me so that when the eventual happens when I sadly die prematurely from this illness that I was born with, he is trying to distance himself from me to protect himself from the pain. He has an added issue where separation is very difficult… Because he was adopted, he has characteristics of something called RAD which stands for Reactive Attatchment Disorder. That is when they find it very hard to develop friendships nor to trust people or to get close to people because they’re always afraid of those people leaving them. So he has a double whammy. Where many children who were adopted eventually outgrow these RAD characteristics, his have intensified because he has been seeing my illness progress more and more and me becoming sicker and sicker where he knows… I will be leaving him. My lung function in 2001 when we adopted him was at 97%. He now sees that I am hardly able to get around without gasping for breath because my lung function now is at 25% So he has the combination of protecting himself from me leaving. So when you see somebody who appears to be a helicopter parent… This is for all of you out there don’t be so quick to judge because you don’t know what possibly could be contributing to this as they call helicopter tendency. As a mom I want to make sure that I can be involved in his life for as much as possible before I am no longer able to be there. And as a result I also want to be able to see him obtaining the things that he is always dreamt about and talks about so I want to make sure I can help him get on the road to those opportunities. Peace out.
@Andreq - This shows that you are a caring person who cares deeply for your son. I see a lot of parents on this forum asking questions, worrying, and stressing out. They do because they care, like you.
i hope you guys remember that this forum is for ucsc talk and not about your life stories c:
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Accepted 
Major: Undeclared Engineering and Computing
UC GPA: 4.14
ACT Score: 34
Sat Subject Tests: 790 Math 2
AP Exam: 4 AP Physics 1
Should I do the TAG program to get into Davis or Just go to UCSC
@Andreq I think you’re a devoted, caring mom. I too am an adoptive mom and I totally get it. This must be a very stressful year for you. I read all the comments and can see how they spiraled into a discussion that is off-topic, but I hope people will cut you a little slack. Best of luck to you and your family.
Waitlisted
GPA: 4.08
Cinema & Digital Media Major
ADMITTED!
GPA: 3.8
ACT: 24
Waitlisted
GPA: 4.28
ACT: 31
SAT: 1380
Sociology
@agfavista1600 did you apply to UC Davis? If so, were you admitted?
No, I did not.
does anyone know if theres a waitlist thread? also is it acceptable to appeal with senior year grades? my GPA was really bad my freshman and sophomore years but I got a 4.7 last semester :-?
Accepted
Biology
1130 sat 24 act
3.9 unweighted 4.25 weighted
Few extracurriculars
Good essays (I think so)
Also accepted to Davis Long Beach And ucr
Rejected cal poly slo
In state but SoCal