Just to make sure, have you sent in applications for family housing at the universities? I’m only familiar with the process for UCSB and UC Davis which are the schools I’m considering and you can (and should) apply before being accepted. Since my wife and I don’t have children we’re lower priority and I’m actually worried about not getting a housing offer before the semester starts and what we’ll do for housing in the meanwhile. We also live in LA but we’ll be moving up north anyways, so we’ll just play it by ear I suppose.
Since you’re living in LA I’m going to guess that your rent is astronomical already and that cost isn’t what has you undecided? Although they all have about the same price tag minus Davis. I’ll just give my thoughts on the housing at these schools since I’ve thought about it a lot for myself:
UCSC
+beautiful, beautiful family housing and they’re all 2-bdr apartments
+They have a bi-monthly community food pantry where you can get free bread, eggs, fresh organic fruits/veggies which is fun and pretty cool
+I can’t imagine a prettier place to raise my kids than on the edge of a redwood forest in a cool city like SC
-Their academic program wouldn’t provide you with as many opportunities w/ regards to grad school as the other choices.
-cost (~1600)
**This negative is actually the reason I’m no longer considering UCSC (if I even get in!) now that I got into UCSB because, unfortunately, I don’t think UCSC’s math dept has as much to offer me personally as UCSB’s does. The family housing is almost too good to be true, but since my main focus (apart from my family of course) is getting into a good grad school, I’ve decided to choose UCSB or UC Davis over it for the strength of their math depts. Look into what an English major can do for you at UCSC vs UCSB etc.
UCSB
+Again, beautiful housing, beautiful place to raise children right on the ocean (as I told my wife, we’ll probably never be able to afford living in SB again in our lives lol)
+great math program (equal with Davis for me)
-cost (varies I suppose but some of them can get quite expensive, also cost of living is quite high for the area)
-environment (this one is personal, the young, exciting sort of atmosphere doesn’t really fit in with our preferred quiet lifestyle, too many partying college kids)
UCLA
+unparalleled English lit dept (except maybe Cal, depending on who you ask but seriously, English Lit at UCLA is something I would find very difficult to pass up especially with regards to how it could help you with applications to grad school coming from such a prestigious program)
+you already live here! (yeah the waitlist sucks and it’s actually pretty far from campus)
+your family could stay where they are (I suppose your daughter’s only 2, she wouldn’t have to change schools or anything, but it is nice to not have to move away)
-cost (but then again, you already live here so you know all about that)
UC Davis
+cost! (I have my eye on those Solano Park apts - $900/mo for a 2-bdr!?)
+environment (it seems like a very laid-back and quiet small-town area with co-ops, whole foods across from campus, etc, but also close enough to Sacramento where there’s the zoo, etc for family outings. Not to mention close enough to the Bay)
To be honest, academics led me to narrow my decision down between UCSB and UC Davis, and then the cost and environment makes me want to go to Davis over SB because it’s the best fit for my wife and I. Like you, I also have plans to go to grad school and so I want to go into a good program where I can push myself and end up in the best place I can in two years’ time.
If I were you, I wouldn’t give up the chance to go to UCLA for anything, and you’re more fortunate than most who have to decide to come to UCLA with a family in that you already live here! Unless there’s something about the program you don’t like, or you feel you really wouldn’t fit in there, then it would do great things for your future studies. Not that any other school wouldn’t, but the dept here at LA attracts so much more attention, good seminars, opportunities to work with great people, etc.
You’re correct in that all three are world-class universities, but UCLA is certainly the most well-known, most applied to, and most selective of the three. Their English Lit program i especially famed, as I’m sure you’re aware.
Do remember, you probably won’t go to grad school at the same institution as your undergrad, so in all likelihood it’ll only be 2 years you spend at whatever university you transfer to, that is such a short time (as I’m sure you know as a parent of a two-year old). If you were to stay in LA, it wouldn’t necessitate having to move twice in ~2 years.
It might be advisable to visit the schools with your family to see the areas (and visit the English depts!) of each and see if you could see yourself going there and your family moving there. My wife and I are planning to go on a quick tour of a few but since we don’t own a car and she works 6 days/wk it’ll be tricky to plan.
Sorry I seem to have rambled on, but feel free to reply (or PM me!) and I’d love to talk more about your thoughts on the schools, family housing (my main source of stress these past few weeks!) etc.
P.S. Funny story, I was actually an English major at CC ~6 years ago and in 2 years I finished all the lower division requirements and an AA before deciding I didn’t want to study English Lit after all! I was almost in your shoes at one point Sometimes I miss literary criticism, but then again I did fall in love with math eventually…