<p>*I gotta ask, mom2-- Why do you always ask whether or not the parents can afford school X, Y or Z? Nine times out of ten the OP’s question has nothing to do with finances and you never address the actual question. I find your prying a little rude, even on a board like this one. *</p>
<p>Well, I’ve found “nine times out of ten,” that the student has no idea that the OOS publics on their list won’t give them needed financial aid. So, if aid is needed and the school won’t give aid, then the original question becomes moot.</p>
<p>I’ve also found that “nine times out of ten,” the student hasn’t even asked his parents how much they will pay, and kids (sometimes) have wild ideas about how much their parents will pay. There was a kid recently that thought his $25k per year income parents would take out big loans for him to go to his first choice college. That is an extreme, but the overall problem is not unusual. </p>
<p>Secondly, if the student’s stats are very unlikely for a school, then the student needs to know that. He can certainly apply if he wants, but he needs to know the likelihood of admission.</p>
<p>More to the point…Students can’t apply to an infinite number of schools. Applications take time and money. Therefore, if knowing that one school (even if it’s awesome!) is not going to work (either financially or stats-wise), it’s best for the student to know that so he can consider replacing that school with a school that is more likely to work for that student. :)</p>
<p>And lastly…After working in sales, the one thing I’ve learned is that people often think they want something that isn’t right for them at all…either because of form, fit, function, or cost. The problems get uncovered by asking questions. Not to be nosy or rude, but to save time, effort, money, frustration. </p>
<p>The intention here is to have happy kids in the spring with at least a few acceptances that fit well and are affordable. It’s heartbreaking to see kids in the spring with acceptances and no affordable schools.</p>
<p>:)</p>