<p>paperchasepop said:</p>
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<p>I’ve no doubt your S1 is uber-smart and may very well be able to even kick up a gear in college, but I don’t think we can assume this behavior in general. When a person has been operating at 30% for FOUR years, doesn’t this form a habit? I mean henceforth it becomes a habitual thing that unless something drastic happens, the same person will continue to want to keep that 70% slack time. I thought most hard-driven Type-A folks tend to keep themselves fully occupied. On the other hand (and may be this is what your S1 is like), if the other 70% is focused on other worthwhile activities with equal fervor, then I can see how the energy can be realigned when the environment changes.</p>
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<p>Well, S1 spent all that spare time and energy reading everything and anything he can lay his hands on in the area of economics and international finance - his passion, but NOT in a way that neatly shows up with demonstrable and “documentable” institutional awards, etc that adcoms love to see. He considered what he did as pure fun, not something he had to strive for - hence, “I am happy because I do fun stuff, while I am not spending a minute worrying about and trying to get good scores and grades” attitude. He had perfect scores and a really dismal EC profile from most adcoms’ point of view - he was soundly rejected by HYP. Yet, this passion of his resulted in a paid internship in a Wall Street firm this summer that began right after he graduated from HS that he got through merit and personal hustling, not by any family connection or introduction. He is a veritable workaholic there, still working this week: all through the summer, while his friends are enjoying the last summer before the college starts, he has been putting in 12 hours a day, five days a week non stop. It’s apparent that he truly enjoys doing it. He says now that that’s same killer instinct he has for the college level work, and he can’t wait to start showing all of his colors. He plans to graduate as one of the top 3 in the top 10 school he is going to this fall, and I wouldn’t put it behind him.</p>
<p>With S2, it’s a same story, but in an entirely different domain. Again, I don’t think he fits the usual profile of what adcoms in highly selective colleges value. He wants to get certification for mountain rescue and search mission. He is studying on line to get an unsupervised hunting permit as a minor (I did not even know that such a thing exists!). He skipped a week in school last spring to participate in a military encampment training and his grade suffered because it happened to be a critical week with a lot of stuff going on in his classes. He does study more than his brother who used to do homework during the recesses and lunch hour, because unlike his brother, he can’t afford to NOT do any studying and get As and Bs. But, is he doing his “utmost best” to get the best grades? No, not even close. Would I relentlessly “encourage” him to do that? No. This is where the leap of faith comes in. I am not sure whether I am doing the right thing in this. Maybe S2 will be better off if I put a bit more pressure so that he ends up, say, Georgetown rather than George Washington. But, I am betting that the sense of ownership and confidence of knowing that his own ability got him at a certain place at a pace comfortable for him will pay dividend on a long term basis. </p>
<p>In the end, like everything else, it’s all about a calculated risk and a leap of faith.</p>
<p>With modern medicine, I believe these kids will live to be 100 and beyond. They have 80+ years to go. Getting to the doorstep to the best college in the world is like running a 100m run. 80 year long marathon is an entirely different story. Though there are undoubtedly many “runners” who will get to the 100m finish line fastest, and then go on to win the marathon to boot, I am betting on a strategy that will ensure that my kids will emerge a “personal” winner in the marathon though they may not win the 100m race. </p>
<p>So, going back to the theme of this thread, will our 3.6 GPA kids exhaust their stored energy making it to a top 20 school and require a quite a down time before they recover enough to continue on to the marathon? Or, will the fastest run time to the 100m finish line give them such a boost that their eventual marathon performance will be greatly enhanced?</p>
<p>This is a $64000 question.</p>