<p>S1 already had Chicago EA, a full ride scholarship from a good school in a top 10 list for his field, and an acceptance from Berkeley.</p>
<p>Even so, HYP rejection was very hard to swallow even though he had a very good “cognitive understanding” that the odds were terribly against him given his EC profile (or, lack thereof). He did not express much - just wanted to be left alone so we did, rather than trying to intrude.</p>
<p>I only got a glimpse of his disappointment when he mentioned after a few weeks of amazing experience and achievement on a paid Wall Street internship he got through merit and personal hustling, not through family/friends connection, something to the effect that he now recovered a full measure of self confidence after the rejection. I did not realize until he said this how deeply he was disappointed. He indicated later that it was not because he would have fewer opportunities at Chicago as opposed to those in other schools or that his career prospect is materially changed. It was just the fact that he did not make it. Believe me, all throughout HS, he was not the Type A type fixated on grades, etc: he was ANYTHING BUT, that’s why I was surprised how hard he took it. </p>
<p>Most of the kids we are talking about on this thread have really not failed in anything that matters so far, and I have the feeling that they all take it pretty hard. I anticipated that S1 would be resoundingly rejected by HYP so I really pumped Chicago up while he was waiting for the RD decisions to soften the blow, even so, it hit him hard. </p>
<p>By the way, I did not know much about Chicago other than that it’s in Top 10, and its econ department is ranked #1. So I researched a lot on this school so that I could pump it up big time to make it into an ideal school for S1 in his eyes. Turns out, the more I learned about it, the more I realized that it’s a perfect school for him, and I fell in love with the school head over hills (marriage first, and loves later later, eh…) By now, he is all gong ho about Chicago. The fact that the executives at the firm where he interned have such high opinions of the school also helped. (good natured jokes about how XXX is going to that school where fun goes to die, and why they should show him some good time before that happens)</p>
<p>I think the important thing for us to do is to let them know that no matter what happens, they are NOT FAILING US. It’s enough that they have to deal with their own disappointment, they should not have to have the extra burden of dealing with the disappointment of the parents.</p>