I currently go to Monmouth University, it’s about an hour away from home. I’ve been here for a semester and I’m going to stick it out for another semester. I just don’t feel like j belong here and I really don’t want to go back for this semester I’m dreading it. I get really depressed in the winter and hope I can push through. The weather doesn’t help. But I really just don’t like the school because it’s smaller than I wanted, and harder to make friends. When I was picking a college I kind of just decided to go where my brother was, but now I realize I want my own fresh start. I don’t have a car or anything so it’s harder for me to leave the campus or dorms. I go home every weekend, because it’s a commuter school and there is nothing to do on the weekends besides partying with the frats all the time. I like to party just occasionally. I can just feel that I don’t belong here and I want to transfer so badly. Would it be so wrong and hard if i want to transfer somewhere further away like Florida or South Carolina? I think if I had warmer weather and a new place it would be good for me. But at the same time I won’t know anyone and I’ll be starting all over again. What do you think? Thank you
What is your financial situation? Major and GPA? What kind of high school stats did you have?
I just checked the Monmouth website, and there are over 80 student clubs you could join, plus sports and volunteer activities, and the university calendar shows events and performances almost every weekend that you could attend. I have a hard time believing that if you stayed on campus on the weekends, then you would be the only one there who would want to do something other than go to a frat party. By going home every weekend, you are depriving yourself of the opportunity to get more involved at Monmouth.
If you were to transfer to a university far away, you would not have the option to go home every weekend and would be forced to figure out what to do on weekends. Why don’t you put yourself in that situation already at Monmouth, and stay on campus during the weekends? It will be hard whether you do this at Monmouth or elsewhere. Most students are not Greek. Work at getting involved. Join some clubs. Attend performances. If it helps, get a part-time job on campus or see if you can volunteer helping with an activity you enjoy. In time you should find people that are like you, who want to hang out and do other things on weekends besides party. They certainly exist at every university, but sometimes they can be harder to find.
Transfer if you think that would help. Monmouth is probably not a school for all students.