<p>I think we should just forget about this thread and move on. Boarding school is a great step for some and not for others.</p>
<p>Yes I totally agree, BS is what you make of it. If you dont fit where your at, how can you expect to fit where your going? Lets move on…</p>
<p>PAAA: I think you should listen to the posts where Moms seem to recommend you go get help from health services, as it is not healthy to be so bummed.
I am in my first year at prep. Most things I love. I was not super popular before coming but I have a ton of friends here. Yes there are some drugs but it is definitely the minority and everyone knows who those kids are. I agree that there is pressure, more than I ever had at my old school and I have had to adjust to that but compared to all the great things at my school, it is worth it. I need to work on managing it (and my parents). Great grades are much harder to get and I went from being one of the top students in my old school to being just a good student here. A little hard on the ego…
Way more great things than bad but you are right it is not perfect and other kids should not come thinking prep is going to be perfect…although it is rad!</p>
<p>Honestly, I know BS isn’t perfect, but apparently since half of this thread is a lie, I am not going to listen to PAAAndover talk about nonsense.</p>
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<p>^^^agreed. I say we be the judge ourselves.</p>
<p>First off PAAndover, you were posting about a school that ISN’T andover but you originally listed it as andover?</p>
<p>Second off, everyone whose insulting him, stop it.
Obviously drugs, alcohol and whatnot are problems at every school, maybe more, maybe less at BS’s, I don’t know, PAAndover is just providing his experience for others to draw from. I trust his statements. And, obviously going to a different part of the country and adapting to life there would be hard for some people and easy for some people. I have a friend whose a new junior at Andover and loves it. But there are always people who are quiet and didn’t integrate very well at Andover’s student body</p>
<p>haha everyone should calm down, i act. find that post hilarious b.c u must realize bs is not fo everyone.</p>
<p>I don’t think the Andover thing was really necessary, but otherwise, I believe that you are entitled to your opinion. I think that the best thing to do right now is get a new counselor, as many others have suggested. If you really believe this is a bs problem, and not a problem in public hs, why don’t you switch schools?</p>
<p>@jyun – I think maybe it would be a good idea to stop laughing at PAA’s thread and calling it “hilarious”. Like you mentioned earlier, BS is certainly NOT for everyone, and you might end up being one of the unlucky few who don’t fit in, like PAA. Don’t count your chickens before they hatch. </p>
<p>Also, everybody who is attacking PAA should STOP NOW. First of all, we have no evidence that PAA is lying, so you should stop calling him a liar. This is an internet forum where anybody can say anything… we’re not here to judge.
Second of all, he claims to be a DEPRESSED FRESHMAN FOR GOD’S SAKE! Cut him some slack will you? It is quite clear to me that all the applicants on CC who have never attended BS before are anxious to start and have high expectations for it, so whenever somebody tries to point out the flaws of BS like PAA did, everybody gets all defensive. Well let me just point out that this COULD BE the way BS turns out for YOU. Then you wouldn’t be defending it. All schools, like people, are different, and only YOU can be the judge of whether or not a school is right for YOURSELF.
Also, if you are truly confident that a school is right for you, you won’t care if others say it’s the worst place in the world, because you will be smart enough to realize that everyone is different and although BS might not work for some, it will work for you because of WHO YOU ARE. </p>
<p>That being said… once again everybody should really stop being insecure and bashing PAA. Even if BS didn’t work for him, doesn’t mean it won’t work for you if you’re the right kind of person. Just keep that in mind next time before you start screaming at people who are trying to help you on the internet.</p>
<p>Ugh I have friends actually alot of friends who go to bs nd they turned out fine. From ehat I see and hear u have to take the iniative to fit in. I am saying I find the post hilarious bc of al th feedback. Sorry if I offended anyone. Calm down peeps</p>
<p>seriously, why does everyone believe everything they read? The OP already lied about which school he went to, how do you know he isn’t lying about his experience for some reason?</p>
<p>2010 hopeful, I don’t think you’ve read this thread, the one marked IMPORTANT on the front page, <a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/prep-school-admissions/427714-if-youre-new-cc-please-read-before-posting.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/prep-school-admissions/427714-if-youre-new-cc-please-read-before-posting.html</a>. Please read it!</p>
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<p>Maybe the OP is lying about his experience, but so what? On the internet, no one [On</a> the internet, no one knows you’re a dog–but scroll down!](<a href=“http://www.unc.edu/depts/jomc/academics/dri/idog.html]On”>http://www.unc.edu/depts/jomc/academics/dri/idog.html)</p>
<p>Maybe he’s a ■■■■■, but I don’t care enough about his identity to worry about that. There are students at all schools who will never be happy. The issues he raises are real problems for many students. Have they made friends? If they’re away from home, and haven’t made some close friends, it’s hard. Do they respect the adults who run the school? Do they respect their teachers? </p>
<p>I know of students who have returned to our town from boarding schools. I haven’t asked why they returned, but some kids do decide it’s not for them. I know that isn’t a popular opinion on this board, but it does come down to fit.</p>
<p>Some of you guys are really digging too into this. Like 2010 said, you shouldn’t believe everything you read. Also in boarding schools there are many ways for the PAAndover to stop feeling this way.</p>
<p>1) He could go to the nurse or guidance counselor
2) He could drop out of the school
3) He could be more open to his classmates</p>
<p>Most likely PAAndover didn’t choose to go their, so he might not like it and thus becomes very shy. Instead of him to come on this board in scare people out of going to boarding school, he should keep his comments to himself.</p>
<p>Just Sayin.</p>
<p>I just want to say he never said the school was Andover. The account name was PAAndover, but it could have been made before he was accepted to schools and knew where he was going. My name has nothing to do with where i might go. I might not go to any of the HADES schools because I have applied to others as well.</p>
<p>Jan 2010 is before people went to school?</p>
<p>i don’t want to insult PAA or continue this argument, just want to tell hadeswisher:
yes, he did say that he went to Andover. Here’s the proof:
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<p>I am sorry to make that mistake. Please stop the hating. I just simply wanted to end this argument for I pity PAAndover.</p>
<p>Ya, I agree I think we should just drop this whole conversation. PAA is entitled to his opinions as we are to ours, and like I said before, different things work for different people, and the only person who can tell whether you will succeed at a BS is yourself. :)</p>
<p>P.S. Sorry for yelling at you, jyun. I guess just overreact sometimes. 
I agree that you have to take the initiative to fit in at BS (or anywhere else for that matter), its just that I know from experience that it is a little harder for some people to do that then it is for others. 
For example, I have a close friend who is painfully shy. She is very kind and extremely bright, but sometimes she comes across as snobby because it frightens her so much to talk to others. If I imagine her at BS, I know that she would definitely not have the courage to reach out to others and try to fit in, and she would most likely end up in a situation similar to the one PAA claims he is in right now. Her condition is really the reason why I feel I am obliged to defend PAA.</p>
<p>[Caring</a> for Your Introvert - The Atlantic (March 2003)](<a href=“http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200303/rauch]Caring”>Caring for Your Introvert - The Atlantic)</p>
<p>It’s not easy for introverts to behave as extroverts do.</p>
<p>Periwinkle, that was a great article and spot on, as were your comments. </p>
<p>As the parent of an introvert myself, I can tell you it’s not easy for them, but the right school makes all the difference in the world. We switched private elementary schools for our son in fourth grade, and I cannot over-empahsaize what a difference it made for him. Both schools were academically challenging, and he did well in both academically, but he was miserable in the first school and blossomed beyond our wildest imaginings for him in the second.</p>
<p>Of all the high schools we visited with our son, there was one that stood out for us because every time he visited he just came to life. Normally, these visits leave him kind of drained and quiet, but not this school. We finally received FA decisions from all the schools we applied to (both boarding and day schools) and are fortunate that the school that seemed the best “fit” for our son is the one that made us the best FA award as well. I am one happy camper today – as is our son. </p>
<p>I hope the OP confides in his parents and advisors so he can sort out if the problem is that he and the school just aren’t a good match or if he just needs more support adjusting to a difficult first year away from home. Four years is way, WAY too long to be miserable, especially when there are other options out there.</p>