<p>Murder charges filed. </p>
<p>[University</a> of Virginia Lacrosse Player Yeardley Love Slain, Fellow Player Charged - ABC News](<a href=“University of Virginia Lacrosse Player Charged in Girlfriend's Murder - ABC News”>University of Virginia Lacrosse Player Charged in Girlfriend's Murder - ABC News)</p>
<p>Sad stuff.</p>
<p>My heart goes out to the family, teammates and friends of this young lady. How terribly sad for the entire UVA community.</p>
<p>This is so devastating to so many people. So sad on many, many fronts.</p>
<p>This is so sad to read about…Both seniors, gifted athletes and students…I can’t imagine how heartbreaking it must be for their families. So absolutely senseless. My heart goes out to them, the UVA students, faculty and community.</p>
<p>the accused is quoted significantly in this article from 2006 on the Duke situation
[Duke</a> Scandal Hits Home - washingtonpost.com](<a href=“http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/03/31/AR2006033101879.html]Duke”>http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/03/31/AR2006033101879.html)</p>
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<p>This is just a damn shame. Two 4th years about to graduate… That guy has destroyed two lives.</p>
<p>****. </p>
<p>my heart just fell opening my inbox.</p>
<p>Holy… what exactly happened?</p>
<p>This is very sad. I hope that the police had a lot of evidence to arrest the guy because I would hate to see his life ruined like those at duke. I wish the best to the family of the girl, her friends, and the entire UVA community at this time… Why do things like this have to happen!</p>
<p>This is just awful news. I was planning on posting a link earlier but I knew that barrons would. I just feel terrible for the family.</p>
<p>Sad day… Press conferences can be found on the right hand side of this page: [UVa</a> Men’s Lacrosse Player Charged with Killing Fellow Student-Athlete](<a href=“http://www.newsplex.com/home/headlines/92666629.html]UVa”>http://www.newsplex.com/home/headlines/92666629.html)</p>
<p>I know that the accused is innocent until proven guilty, but there had to be some strong evidence to arrest him so quickly. That Post article and the quotes by his father four years ago are so profound, they make me cringe. I feel like I want to shout “Stop the madness!” Between the Morgan Harrington death, the kids murdered on Skyline drive, the English exchange student that is still missing from VCU, the suicides at WM…What is going on with our young people?! It just breaks my heart to hear more.</p>
<p>As someone who’s been too close for comfort on a handful of college tragedies, there’s never a good reason behind them. Someone, sometimes a college student, sometimes a stranger, got pushed too close to the edge and made the leap and did something drastic. I think this young man was already stressed beyond belief, under pressure, and wanted a life with this girl that just wasn’t going to work out. It’s crushing to think about how she died and the two lives destroyed now.</p>
<p>One thing I hope everyone on this board, and the world, realizes is that this is no way should cast a negative light on UVa. These types of things can happen anywhere, from VT to UVa to Harvard to Berkeley. No college is anymore unsafe than another, and it sounds like this wasn’t random at all (which is what scared me the most when I first heard about it…I walk near those apartments all the time at night).</p>
<p>I hope UVa gives her a posthumous diploma, she deserves everything life could, and would, have given her.</p>
<p>I don’t think anything is going wrong with our young people… I think we’re getting better.</p>
<p>Though I do notice that a couple on the rocks tends to isolate themselves more, away from friends. I wonder if this could have been prevented with friends in the right place.</p>
<p>Though I must wonder … do we as 18-22 year olds really know the value of life? in general – we take risks with our lives and think nothing of it. We get caught in really intense emotions – be it overwhelming exam pressures, agonising relationship issues, etc. and in general not telling your parents is the norm. Sometimes it scares me how easy it is for me to turn to thoughts of death (yours or others’) or something extreme like that, but luckily for me it is equally easy to push those thoughts away.</p>
<p>Yet perhaps I can imagine there are those that find it harder to resist…</p>
<p>Well said multi…well said. I think no one knows what the future holds, we’re scared, and make rash decisions. I can tell you I’m scared ****less about post-grad life, and most fourth years are. We’re all just trying to see the beauty in life that can come from a new life so far from everything we’ve known for 22 years.</p>
<p>multicultural, you are better, that is what so confuses/upsets me. To lose young people like you all, so vibrant, so smart, so many gifts to share as adults, for what? A relationship gone sour, stressors that can’t be handled? </p>
<p>The violent nature of today’s world has to play a part in all of these scenarios. Its prevalence is an undercurrent that our generation never had to feel. I agree with you; I don’t think that 18-22 year olds value their life as much as they should. They never have. We were all “young and stupid” once and did crazy things. But, I do think that the violent culture of today causes some young people to devalue the lives of others. </p>
<p>In addition to those poor families, I just feel so bad for all of you having to go through this- right at exams, right at graduation. I played college sports and I know just how tight-knit teams can be; many are like families. Those women lax players are going to be grieving tremendously and suffering a lot of pain. I hope all of UVA rallies around them, too, in the coming days/weeks. God bless.</p>
<p>You’d be surprised what it’s like to be a 20-year old these days. Especially at UVa, it’s like a pressure-cooker. It’s not even that we’re young and dumb, we just don’t know how to fail, and when we do, it’s miserable and can be life-altering. It’s incredibly overwhelming to work for 22 years, have everything going for you, then just wake up one day, realize life as you know it is coming to a close and everything isn’t going to be perfect.</p>
<p>This hits home for every fourth year I think…</p>
<p>^^ That’s sad. 
I hope I don’t feel like that as a fourth year, though I probably will since I’ll be officially entering the real world.</p>
<p>^^“we just don’t know how to fail, and when we do, it’s miserable and can be life-altering. It’s incredibly overwhelming to work for 22 years, have everything going for you, then just wake up one day, realize life as you know it is coming to a close and everything isn’t going to be perfect.”</p>
<p>Not to sound preachy, after many decades I’ve learned when I have fallen to ask for help, a hand, a shoulder, and then when received to just keep putting one foot in front of the other and not look back. The last part is amazingly hard.</p>
<p>Our culture, especially of late, favors hubris. The flip side is exactly as you said, an intense fear of failing. Shoebox, you’ll take these four years of knowledge and spread your wings appropriately. You may flounder some, perhaps fail at some tasks, but just try to keep both pedals going forward in life, so you don’t list to much to one side or the other. Stay on the straight and narrow path too.</p>
<p>And always remember your University roots: </p>
<p>“I know of no safe depository of the ultimate powers of the society but the people themselves; and if we think them not enlightened enough to exercise their control with a wholesome discretion, the remedy is not to take it from them but to inform their discretion.”
Thomas Jefferson </p>
<p>My sincere sadness at this distressing moment. May the UVA community reflect introspectively and then use their community insight in a manner of beneficence to one another.</p>