<p>I know there are lots of wl threads, but how are other parents coping with the wl torture while continuing to be excited about the school where the deposit was made? I feel schizophrenic!! I am doing a good job of hiding the angst from my son, but I know he feels the same!</p>
<p>Head over to this thread and join in the fun. Nothing like friends and humor to reduce torture :)
<a href="http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/475746-seeking-companions-vigil.html%5B/url%5D">http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/475746-seeking-companions-vigil.html</a></p>
<p>And then there's the thread on the college admissions board in which students who were accepted to colleges are talking about not bothering to tell the colleges that they don't plan to attend. How very ungrateful and selfish.</p>
<p>I read that one...and felt ill.</p>
<p>Heading to the vigil...</p>
<p>Yes, that is selfish. It's not like it's so hard to send someone an email.</p>
<p>On the other hand, I'm not sure schools bother to tell people that they're <em>not</em> getting in off the waitlist. I guess that at a certain point, if one doesn't hear anything, it's the same as a "no."</p>
<p>Although one never knows. After all, I was waitlisted at Princeton and still haven't heard anything one way or the other. It's been 36 years. Do you think there's still hope?</p>
<p>(Fortunately, perhaps, my son doesn't have to deal with that issue!)</p>
<p>Donna</p>
<p>While I think it's appropriate for participants on this board to offer support for those waiting on waitlists, we should note that the Bush administration has ruled that waiterboarding does not constitute torture.</p>
<p>(I'm sorry - maybe lame attempts at humor can be a coping strategy?)</p>
<p>"n the other hand, I'm not sure schools bother to tell people that they're <em>not</em> getting in off the waitlist. I guess that at a certain point, if one doesn't hear anything, it's the same as a "no."</p>
<p>I know Harvard lets students know when it stops taking students off the waitlist or if it won't take students off the waitlist. I think the notification date is around mid June.</p>
<p>Last year, Vassar notified my d that they weren't going to the waitlist at all.</p>
<p>A few years ago, S received a letter from BC when the waitlist decisions closed.</p>
<p>As did my D last year when Wash U closed their waitlist.</p>
<p>To my-3-sons and runnersmom. Did your kids enjoy their year at their schools despite having not gotten accepted off the waitlist at these colleges? Any lingering sense of wishing to be elsewhere or did that vanish quickly?</p>
<p>I think my D assumed she would not be getting off the waitlist and was very excited about her choice of school. She's at Chicago, and I actually believe that she probably would have turned down the waitlist spot if offered for a number of reasons, not the least of which was I think she finally decided she didn't want to go to school with her brother. At least at Chicago her other brother had graduated before she started school!</p>
<p>I believe my S also would have turned down the waitlist spot if offered later. Once May 1st came, he was so immersed in the school he sent his deposit to, Univ of Miami, that he never looked back. He has loved every minute at UM and often says he is so glad he ended up there. </p>
<p>Our approach was to accept a spot on the waitlist, then forget about it and love the one that was chosen. If you get the call later, deal with it then. Don't let these kids miss out on the excitement of exploring their new opportunities because they are pining away for a waitlist. Once you have sent in a deposit, consider yourself a student at that school and start connecting.</p>
<p>Yes, this is what I think, too: fall in love with the college you have put your money on. My S is starting to do that.</p>