Thanks everyone, All good information.
So a little more, at least one of the schools has mandatory co-op, and would be on the higher cost side. Also a consideration is that if he co-ops then the cost of 4 years school would spread over five, reducing the annual parent cost. So instead of 35 per year it would be 28 per year for a year longer. So cash flow would be easier for us, but it would cause him to still be in school when his brother starts.
I guess I have a hard time justifying the added cost. I know he can get a CS degree and be employed, but from visiting and looking at the programming I also can see some schools have better and more varied programming, where better could be the variety, the reputation, the company connections or even the difficulty/depth/teaching of the classes. He’d also like to do a BS/MS accelerated program, but the 5th year would cost us unless he can complete it all with his AP/dual enrollment credits. I tend to doubt that since he hasn’t had access to many AP. He will probably get about a semesters credit, 12-15 hours.
So the likely contenders for us are: Alabama (presidential elite scholarship, offered him a new car too, honors, hoping for RRS program), Purdue, RIT, RPI (hoping for merit at all of these, and acceptance at the latter two in RD), with a long shot being MIT (deferred)…but at an even higher cost.
I think RIT (mandatory co-op) is the favorite of the likely options, but we haven’t visited Purdue (will in April). My thought is that he should have some skin in the game if he wants a more expensive school. That could be money from co-op or summer work, the federal loans he can take, him finding, applying for and receiving scholarships.
He has worked hard through high school. I made the mistake of thinking and telling him in 9th grade that he could go the the state school Mom and Dad would pay for, or he could work hard, and go where he wanted (thinking like many that scholarships would be forthcoming). Of course when I found CC, I learned the truth. Scholarships can be had, but there has to be compromise on location, rank, programming…so the reality is finding the balance in those things that are truly affordable. I also never set a specific dollar amount, but in state schools are around $20k per year.
He was also accepted to NEU, but with scholarship I think the cost is still NFW. Case deferred him, but could climb back on the table with acceptance and enough merit. U Rochester as well with merit and acceptance in RD.
Also open to feedback on the CS programs mentioned.