I’m moving in to college tomorrow, and it’s about 20 minutes by train from my house.
about 80% done packing-- super nervous, scared, excited, sad, all at once.
I’m not an introvert or too outgoing guy, just a tad bit shy/insecure. people that know me well say I’m funny. But I’m afraid I actually forgot how to make friends. I’ve gone through 3 years with a tight friend group in HS, 7+ years with another childhood friend group and I’ve stuck with those two as my only friends for a while.
I also never took a business class before in my life and all my classes are about it, so I’m nervous to see if I actually enjoy this subject.
And last but not least, leaving my home, bed, pet, family, etc. I have orientation on Thursday, so first time sleeping at the school. I don’t go out much, I always get super lazy and usually say no to plans, so this will be a big change. Really want to try out the yesman lifestyle in college but I don’t know if I can do it.
No plans for today except finishing packing and continuing to worry/stress out, which is one of my bad habits.
Any advice?
Wow, if I didn’t know my S was in grad school I would have assumed he wrote this. Although he went to school little further away, he always said he wished he were closer. He had very close small group of good friends in high school and it took him a while to make new friends but I’d say he has a group of 10-12 close friends from college. That’s all one needs. I told him no one knows who you were in high school but you can’t and shouldn’t change much. If you weren’t a frat boy in high school probably won’t be one in college but remember they don’t know you so you can be who you want to be not who you used to be.
My D is now starting as freshman in business school, shes in the same boat. Nervous but excited, remember if you don’t like it you can change your major. Business classes could never hurt you.
Worry and stress out. You sound like a type A personality which means you will probably care about your grades and your career and be very successful.
Go in with an open mind, meet new people but don’t worry if you don’t change that much. I’m sure you will have a great time. Periodic train rides for home cooked meal and easy laundry isn’t bad either.
I think it’s always comforting to remember that most everyone feels the way you do. I can’t count the amount of times my friends, who are also about to start college, have stressed over the fact that they’re going to have to make new friends. They too have said they’ve forgotten how to make friends. They too are scared to be in a foreign place with foreign people. I know this isn’t really advice, but I’ve always found comfort in knowing I’m not the only one to feel something.
As for your class situation-- if you decide you have no interest in business, can you not drop those classes in exchange for other ones?
@OhioParent558 Thanks for the inspiration and comforting words. What’s a type A personality? Also, your last sentence for some reason really made me at peace. Thank you.
@annbern That is true. All my other high school friends have already moved in or are going to, I need to suck it up and face my fear. And I could drop those classes, but I really don’t want to have the shitty feeling that I wasted time and money on such classes, if I were to switch. Plus, the main reason is that I switched over to business from engineering over the summer due to the fact that I’m horrible at physics and I really don’t want to regret this decision of switching.
Get your body moving! Exercise if you already have been doing so, or even just go on a nice long walk. It should help you clear your head.
One good piece of advice I heard about entering college was the following: do what makes you uncomfortable, in a comfortable way. Try new things, meet new people, and say yes, but not if it makes you feel uncomfortably uncomfortable, a.k.a. if it feels wrong.
You can do this 
Type A personality is a description of someone who is more competitive, ambitious, maybe little to hard on themselves. Usually people in very competitive fields are Type A. Its more of an expression nowadays than an actual psychological diagnosis. To me its a compliment for go getters who want to succeed in everything they do.