My sister gets me 2 or 3 of Emmi Fondue (the kind you see in the grocery store or can get on Amazon) every Christmas. I use one of my wedding gifts as a fondue pot- a decades old small Corelle casserole dish. Works perfectly and no fancy fondue pot necessary! 
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It was 2 years ago, when my former boss gave me a huge fondue package for my son, it was far too big to put in their luggage, and would have cost at least $35 to mail. So, a visitor to my house saw, it, went crazy, how her kids moving to area would love it, etc., so out it went.
To those who haven’t been around, this boss’s wife would give me the same clothes, different colors, in size Large, in Macy’s boxes. After the first year, when I went to exchange, & Macy’s said they never carried the line, both shirts went into recycle bin. They were so old fashioned, same yellow stripe, probably went to rags. Well, I I,agne the fondue pot followed their path.
A little off topic…but if you are dying for a fondue pot…keep an eye out at your local thrift shops. We get brand new ones in their boxes frequently where I volunteer.
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I know. You end up needing to bundle various gifts to make it substantial.
I have been inclined to keep the wedding gifts from many decades ago that were either sentimental to me or very utilitarian. I have a clock now in my family room that is outdated and not really that attractive but it brings back fond memories of the now long gone longtime family friends of my parents that gave it to us .
On the other hand, I basically gave away a beautiful wooden salad bowl with a pewter base in a yard sale long ago because I just did not like the person who gave it to us. Long story, but this person was just not my cup of tea and every time I used the salad bowl , it just did not not bring fond memories.
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We use our fondue pot regularly!
Need to get a gift for the wedding we attended a couple weeks ago. They said they didn’t need anything, but put a few items on Zola. Everything has been purchased. They had a couple tools on the list (Home Depot), so am thinking about a gift card.
Is that totally tacky? We’ve never even met the happy couple. I hate writing checks for gifts. Only time I’ve done that is for nieces and nephews, all of whom needed cash.
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If you don’t know the couple I’d write a check.
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If they are thinking about tools from HD, they will be definitely making a few trips to HD for supplies. I would buy them a HD gift card!
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I’m confused…you attended the wedding a couple of weeks ago but didn’t even meet the couple then?
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I am confused too!
I remember now…this was a colleague of @CountingDown husband and they went only to the ceremony (and maybe cocktail hours?)
Yup, that’s right, @thumper1. We left right after the ceremony, so never had the opportunity to meet the B&G. Ah, Covid…
I’ve met the work colleague a few times, and went to the Downton Abbey costume exhibit in Delaware with his wife. They’re really nice people.
If you don’t know the couple well, write a check or give a Home Depot gift card if that’s where they’re registered.
Why do people have an issue with writing a check or giving cash? Not trying to be rude, just wondering. As far back as I can remember people would often give monetary gifts if they didn’t know the couple well or they weren’t registered anywhere…
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I think it really depends on where you were brought up and by whom. In my own case, the idea of giving cash as a wedding gift elicits an almost visceral feeling that doing so is the height of vulgarity. It’s not really anything to do with current trends or what the bridal couple has requested. It’s more like the notion that it’s in bad taste to talk about money or even speculate about how much someone paid for anything. It’s tantamount to buying an expensive (or cheap) gift and leaving the price tag on. It just feels tacky and “not nice”.
I’d blame it on growing up in the south but both of my parents were born in Pennsylvania and grew up there so that’s probably not the reason. It’s just so deeply ingrained in me that I can’t quite explain it. It comes down to being taught that talking about money and what an item costs in social situations is just verboten. Does anyone recognize a friend’s birthday by handing them a $50 bill? Maybe some do but just the thought gives me the shudders 
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If the couple has a “honeyfund”, giving to that is the same as giving cash.
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My daughter is invited to a wedding at the Four Seasons Disney World. The website lists the STARTING price at $209 per guest. The rooms are thousands of dollars per night. I’m sure parking at the event will be $30.
There is no way she (24) and BF (27) are going to give this couple a $400+ gift to ‘cover their plate.’
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Understandable feelings. We don’t have that background, so we’ve always welcomed the opportunity to help out a young couple with cash or check, especially if they are footing the wedding bill themselves. Often we will also give small gift, such as a set of votive candle holders.
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Not about a wedding gift, but all this talk about gifting cash made me think of this Seinfeld episode where Jerry (and George) give Elaine cash for her birthday. “What are you - my uncle??” 
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Ideally, gifts should be sent to the couple before the wedding. According to various etiquette experts, though, guests should do their best to send a gift within two months after the wedding date at the very latest. While this is a recommendation, it is a nice gesture to send your gift promptly. And, while you can bring something on the big day, online registries streamline the shopping process by allowing you to shop online and ship the gift to the couple’s address. This is the most convenient option for couples, but it also helps guests by eliminating extra shipping hassles. When it comes to knowing the proper etiquette for wedding gifts, giving what you can is a kind gesture—but doing so in a timely manner will make your present that much sweeter.
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