<p>I'm in sort of a similar situation--I'm waitlisted at Vassar, my dream school, but I know that even if I do get in off of the waitlist (and I realize that the chances are slim), it's not likely that my aid will be great/existant. I'm deciding between attending Dickinson and the University of Rochester, both of which gave me money, but from reading the numbers on this thread, it looks like I'm still in a bad situation money-wise. What do you think? </p>
<p>My parents are very confusing about what exactly they will be paying since they've told me that they can't meet the EFC. Neither parent agrees on exactly how much they will be able to manage--Dad says state school tuition (half each), whereas Mom doesn't seem to think they (she?) will be able to give me that much but repeats that they will both try to help me as much as they can. </p>
<p>My parents constantly give mixed messages about their financial situations...it's really confusing and hard to know who's being more realistic. Basically, though, neither of them has handled their money very well, so I'm honestly hesitant to take their advice. Is that horrible?</p>
<p>Anyway, if I go to Dickinson, I'll have somewhere between 22,000 (best case if my parents can meet their EFC) and 50,000 (if my parents can pay the state school price) total debt. If I go to Rochester, I'll have somewhere between 40,000 and 68,000 total debt. The second number for each school could actually be higher if my parents can't make the state school price, but I really have no idea what might be a minimum for them. Luckily almost all of my aid is merit (Benjamin Rush Scholar at D, Dean's scholarship from UR), so it won't change year to year. </p>
<p>I've appealed the aid at Rochester, although I'll probably just end up going to Dickinson because of the money. I can't visit either school and I'm not particularly enthusiastic about either (UR seems too big and science-oriented with bad weather, whereas Dickinson seems like high school all over again socially for some reason--maybe because six kids from my class are also going). I like Rochester's cluster system and that Eastman is next door (musical atmosphere), and I like Dickinson's smaller size and the fact that it seems slightly similar to Vassar in certain ways (according to my dad at least)...but neither one feels like a perfect fit. Financially or otherwise, any thoughts on my choice between the two? </p>
<p>I also have to ask--if you were in my shoes and Vassar came knocking with little to no aid, what would you do? Would the academic (and social?) environment at Vassar be worth the extra debt? I pretty much know the answer but I think I need someone else to tell me. I know that I'll eventually end up 'ok' at either of the schools I'm choosing between, but it's hard when neither school feels just right and there's still a thread of hope at the school that did, even though it isn't really an option. </p>
<p>Sorry for such a monster of a post...I'm just really worried about college and money in general, and I feel like a) I'm picking my college out of a hat (I used to love these schools but now I'm just not sure) and b) I feel like no matter what I do, I'll end up in a lot of debt. Plus there's c), my parents are being very unclear about money and it's making me extra-nervous. What am I getting myself into?</p>