What do you say to friends that are rejected?

<p>I mean, when you're accepted to good school and they're not, what do you say?</p>

<p>Sucks to be you.</p>

<p>Nah, just kidding, I try not to ask them about colleges to avoid the potential awkward situation. Other than that, so long as I don’t purposely insult them, they should be fine.</p>

<p>Yeah, but they already know. I didn’t mean to tell, I actually managed to avoid it for 2 days till ones says “HEY! Did you hear from _____” and I was like “uh…yeah…”, “You got in huh?” “Um…Yeah…but I’m sure…” and he was like “No! Whatever”</p>

<p>But he keeps saying “oh you’re in cause you’re a woman” or whatever and we joke around like that so it’s cool but I can’t really cut him back without being a *****. I know it hurts him, but like I can’t do anything.</p>

<p>“It’s their loss” or “You’re only going to go to one college; try not to think about the colleges you didn’t get into” or “maybe it’s not the right college for you”</p>

<p>Those are my most frequently-used lines. If you have a bad feeling (they probably weren’t accepted), try not to ask about it.</p>

<p>Did you lose weight? You look really slim/buff.
How about…
…dude…that’s just messed up, you know what I mean?
Or
(Shaking your head in a sympathetic manner)…admissions were a real crap shoot this year, bro…</p>

<p>“You can work harder” is the only goal.</p>

<p>F*** (name of the college).</p>

<p>Aww, my friend was deferred then rejected while I was accepted early and I couldn’t even hug her, because it was through the phone :(. Just be like “I’m sorry. That sucks. How lame of [insert stupid school here].” And “Are you cool?” It shouldn’t be hard, because you’re being honest, unless you’re secretly a mean person and you wanted your friend to be rejected.</p>

<p>It’s best when you’ve not asked them about the decisions. Like, my friend randomly offered that he got waitlisted at a school where I got an Early Write. I could come up with a thousand ways to make him feel better, ex: 1) I went to a weekend thing there to which he couldn’t go (diversity weekend, he’s white) and people who go there are accepted at a much higher rate. 2) He didn’t want to go there in the first place and only applied because his father made him. 3) The school has not accepted even the most amazing applicants from our school for about 20 years. Literally no one, according to my counselor. 4) He submitted his application late. 5) The 2390 SAT score, 4.0 GPA, Jeopardy Winner was waitlisted too. But I didn’t, because he didn’t want to go there.</p>

<p>Yeah. I try not to mention my college name around my rejected friends.</p>

<p>“It’s okay [insert friend’s name here], it just wasn’t meant to be <em>pause</em> just kidding, YOU SUCK.” /win.</p>

<p>I offer to bring the school down from the inside for them.</p>