<p>I think that the parents’ job is not to steer child toward a particular EC or cluster of EC’s, but to help find opportunities in the child’s expressed areas of interest. I have two kids in colleges that are perfect fits for them – both, IMHO, in meaningful part thanks to their EC’s. Neither kid had much to do with school-based clubs; they did the usual things to be good citizens with cooking for the homeless, raising money for human rights, etc., but neither had a leadership position or an elected office. Most of what they did happened outside of school. What I did was to facilitate. In other words, if a kid was playing with leggo endlessly and was interested in engineering type things, I said, Hey, do you want to find if there’s a leggo robotics team for kids your age? If someone adored claymation cartoons and was very artistic, I found an afterschool claymation class and offered it. (A lot of this stuff was at local parks & rec and was not expensive.) I made sure that there were great music teachers as long as the interest was there and there was practice, and I found outside programs and ensembles with performance opportunities. The kids would just say no if I was offering something that they didn’t want to pursue, and I backed off. Sometimes it was hard to back off, as in, OK kid wants to drop orchestra musical instrument that he played exceptionally in favor of an electric whatzit, or drop a sport that’s he could conceivably play in college in order to spend more time writing music for the electric whatzit. If this is the kid’s true direction, though, you just have to get the kid an amplifier and the computer program that’s needed for composition and pray for the best. </p>
<p>What I also discovered is that if the kid is doing something a bit offbeat, it’s good to have outside confirmation that the kid is good at the offbeat thing in terms of college admission. So if the kid goes along with it, encourage them to send those poems to national competitions and magazines for and by kids; send that interesting experiemental film to student film festivals; find out if the local historical museum has a program in which your kid obsessed with pioneers can become a docent with an official title and interesting things to do. (As the kids get older, they will find their own opportunities, but most 13 year olds don’t even know that these things exist.) Also, as the kids get older, if there are summer programs that are recognized as excellent nationally where they can pursue their interests with like-minded kids, this would be a good way to go. I guess what I’m saying is that if your kid wants to do South Asian dance, or hammer dulcimer, or become a puppeteer, or write novels in haiku, or learn to make video games based on the battle of Hastings and not work toward becoming first chair violin in the school orchestra and senior class president, it’s OK. Take her to performances and find her a dance troupe; buy her a dulcimer and expose her to folk music performances and conferences; and find her an interactive media company that will let her do any low level task they need done just to give her the exposure. </p>
<p>With my kids, one is pursing the central, longterm EC as an academic major and lifeswork, while the other is continuing to pursue the virtually lifelong EC as an EC in college, but one that shapes and informs her everyday life. This would not be happening if I had picked the EC’s or forced them not to drop something they were good at junior year (!) to take up something else. They both worked hard at the EC’s because this was where their true interests and passions lay, and this made their lives better, more interesting, and more fulfilling. And given that having a long-term outside passion in an area you’re very good at is currently in fashion with college admission, it clearly helped. But that can’t be the point; it’s just a nice side benefit that flows from the kids doing things they love to do.</p>