<p>..they happen to be a convicted felon??
No, but it's a flaw nearly as punishable as the former :rolleyes:
I don't know. But I will turn to you, my fellow overachievers...
My Prom date is really nice. He's cute. A little on the quiet side but it doesn't bother me much.<br>
The only thing we don't really mesh on is school. He's "smart" but only takes honors courses. He's never taken an AP. An ACT 28 is amazing to him. He's going to a third-tier school and is completely happy with it. I just feel as if I'm part of a different world in this way. I'm not going to an ivy, but I did get into a solid public school (for what it's worth it's a top-20 public in the rankings..meh) and I am driven to do well there.
School has always been a centripetal force in my selection of friends/acquaintances. The people I know in school are the ones in my AP courses...
In my AP classes the people I talk to are politically informed. They want to travel the world some day. I'm used to this intellectual joie de vivre with the kinds of people I know in class.
Any experience on this?
Thanks. x</p>
<p><em>Bangs head against keyboard multiple times</em></p>
<p>If you like him, you like him. Who cares how many APs he’s taken or what school he is going to?</p>
<p>If you feel like you can’t talk to him AT ALL, I guess that matters…but please do not base this on what you see as your intellectual superiority. How well do you actually know him?</p>
<p>And a 28 ACT is pretty darn good. What is wrong with a “third-tier school?”</p>
<p>Sorry to say this, but I think the problem is your attitude.</p>
<p>If you like him, go with him! And enjoy it!</p>
<p>Listen to Choco.</p>
<p>Well, I don’t care about how many APs he’s taken. I don’t care about the third-tier thing. I don’t think I’m conveying my message properly.
He just doesn’t seem to have that drive to learn or whatnot. I’ve had a good friend who did not take any APs but was extremely intelligent. I enjoyed his company. He knew a lot of great things from reading and doing things on his own.
I don’t feel intellectually superior to him. Many AP classes and high scores don’t make a person inherently intelligent and the converse doesn’t make them inherently stupid, respectively.
I’m just not used to his really really laid-back approach? I guess? I’m not sure.</p>
<p>EDIT: I just can’t figure out if his quietness is a sign of thinking…shyness…or what? Is he just really laid-back? I can’t say. I’m relatively talkative and enjoy sharing my ideas with other people…eh. I don’t know.</p>
<p>hahaha I could see this playing out in conversation. </p>
<p>“Yeah I really like this guy” <em>said at a normal speed</em></p>
<p>“… but he’s a convicted felon.” <em>said at like x100 normal speed</em></p>
<p>lol hard to remake on internet = /</p>
<p>Choco speaks many wise truths.</p>
<p>^ that’s not good if you aren’t used to someone sitting back and enjoying life = /.</p>
<p>Phew, I thought you meant he really was a convicted felon at first. That’d be a definite no go.</p>
<p>Otherwise, I don’t see why not</p>
<p>I sort of get what you’re saying. You might think that if you’re the kind of person who places an emphasis on academics, pride yourself on your ambition, and enjoy discussing intellectual subjects, it might be a little bit more difficult to find common subjects to talk about with someone who doesn’t share those traits. But academics is only one aspect of life, and I’m sure there are plenty of other things you guys have in common.</p>
<p>You should also keep in mind that people often date outside of their friends circles. It’s always good if there are a few differences between two people. Otherwise, things might get boring. And maybe you might change his perception on academics (although I wouldn’t try to force it…).</p>
<p>@AeroEngineer3141 - I think you’re the first person that got the gist of what I’m trying to say. He is just so darn quiet!! I can’t really tell.
I don’t really want to change him…I’m just wondering how the hell we’ll fare through the rest of the month til Prom and AT Prom. Obviously, I don’t want to marry the guy. 
Maybe he’ll open up more later…</p>
<p>Meh… I think you should give him some time to open up. And if he doesn’t, it’s obvious that you’re probably not completely into him. There may be an attraction, but it’s hard to sustain a relationship with someone that you can’t 100% reciprocally be open with.</p>
<p>Also, it’s nearly impossible to change people, so I wouldn’t even attempt to think about it. :)</p>
<p>stupidest thread ever…</p>
<p>^ lyke…stupidest post evahh.</p>
<p>I agree with AeroEngineer3141. Academics is only one part of life, school is only one way to learn, and standardized tests like the ACT are notoriously bad metrics of intelligence.</p>
<p>Don’t judge him strictly based on his school life. If you like him enough, go for it. If you feel like you can’t possibly converse intellectually with him, then don’t.</p>
<p>I really don’t see why this is such a hard decision. :)</p>
<p>It’s not a hard decision! I’m going with him guys You have to have the experience at least once with a date etc. I’m very fortunate to have such a nice guy ask me is how I feel 
I just wonder how we’ll get along til then…ah well. Only time will tell!</p>
<p>Hey, I have a 4.0 GPA and I’m going out with a girl with a 2.8. It’s no big deal unless we start talking about grades. Just avoid that topic and you’ll be fine.</p>
<p>Omg seriously? If you like the kid, go out with him. I had a 33 ACT and a 3.8ish gpa. I got accepted to the top public I applied to. My fiance didn’t even graduate high school (he was either dead last or very close to last in class rank). Trust me, four years later and we still find things to talk about.</p>
<p>Oy vey. :p</p>
<p>But good luck vertigo. Hope it works out well! :)</p>
<p>@romanigypsyeyesI - that’s encouraging [and a way different scenario than mine] but I hope he does start to talk more/open up so that maybe we could get out of my “academic” comfort zone. It’s like talking shop. It’s easy, direct, straight forward, a definite influence in my life, and it’s not personal. Hopefully we can get away from that though. He’s been talking only about his art (his comfort zone I presume) and so it’s not only me who is feeling a little apprehensive…
I’m excited to see how it turns out! Thanks for the advice, folks.</p>
<p>^ Sorry, I was on my phone and meant to come back and elaborate, but I definitely forgot. Haha. </p>
<p>Yes, my boy was definitely shy for the first few months we went out. But once he broke out of his shell, he definitely broke out :). Just give it time! No worries.</p>
<p>Vertigo, you are not choosing him as a life partner. You are just going to the prom with him. So relax and enjoy!</p>
<p>@jingle - I think I said, half-jokingly, in one of my posts “It’s not as if I’m going to marry the guy I just want to see how we’ll make it to Prom and how it’ll be at Prom.” xD I know I’m not Glad I’m not the marrying type at 17, lol.</p>
<p>I’ll have to update on how it goes. Didn’t see him today but maybe will tomorrow. :D</p>
<p>Guess what…I was extremely stupid. What’s new?
He actually got off the waitlist for UF. I was concerned with us dating and the distance too…but now I don’t have to worry about it.
We get on extremely well. The chemistry is great. He’s a really nice guy and I’m very lucky!
…Just an update if any of y’all were curious.</p>