<p>I had already told him that I was going to require that 1/2 of any money made in excess of the student income allowance was going to have to be either given to me or used for school. The easiest thing is to have him use it for books. He’s not at that threshhold yet. He is paying for ALL his fun stuff and 95% of food. I honestly don’t mind helping out (I can get cereal for $1.50 why make him pay $5 or more a box). I do mind being taken for granted and made to feel like a doormat. He’s working at the school gym (one of his 2 jobs) and we’re still not sure if the money he has earned since may will be work study from this past year (he had $900 in ws allocated which he had not used). And he just changed jobs and I’ll be getting his paystubs (just getting him to put this address was a major accomplishment) so I will know exactly how much he is making. </p>
<p>He does have $5900 in loans (stafford/perkins) from this past year. haven’t gotten the FA for next year yet. </p>
<p>I wish to god that I didn’t have to give him ultimatums and threats, but since that is what he responds to…</p>
<p>My parents would belittle me about NOT buying clothes, they made fun of me. Said I looked like a hobo. My mother physically dragged me to get my long hair cut when I was 13. They locked the refrigerator so I couldn’t eat unless it was mealtime. They yelled at me for not getting a perfect score on everything. I only wanted to be a different parent than they were. I wanted to treat my child like I wanted to be treated. I haven’t spoiled him with video games, cars (he doesn’t have a license), expensive junk. He resents me for that. Oh well, maybe he’ll have better luck with his kid. OTOH, he is so much ‘book smarter’ than I ever was. I pains me to see him be materialistic. I didn’t set that example.</p>