<p>Sue, I think you’ve probably received more advice than you thought you would and after reading through it all I think it is quite sound. Tough love takes energy, strength and conviction…and thats what you need to practice right now. If he spends his money and has none for books, thats his tough luck, poor planning and not your problem. He needs to learn responsiblity and learn it fast. He’ll appreciate what you provide for him far more if he has to contribute some it himself.Of course, you need to tell him your expectations now…and then stick to it.</p>